I realised that I haven't really hated myself in a while

I'm not going to start now that I've said that. For the longest time I was kind of ambivalent about myself, and to an extent I still am. The difference is that now I'm ambivalent in a positive way instead of in a disinterested negative way. I am who I am, and I'm OK with who I am as a person because I'm kind and sweet and caring and honest. I think the only really negative thing - if it even could be called a negative thing - is that women aren't attracted to me if they can see what I look like. I don't have control over that though so I'm not super worried about it.

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Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F Best Comment

It really does take more than looks to get a caring woman.
Just like it takes more than money or looks or whatever to get a decent man.
The people that only care about looks are extremely shallow and I'm not sure they're worth pursuing no matter how beautiful or handsome they are.
People have to get to know each other it takes a while and people want things pretty quickly and will settle for very shallow relationships that don't usually last long.

KiwiDan · 31-35, M

@Justmeraeagain I am aware. But I've noticed a trend where I'm more likely to get accepted if they can't see what I look like.