What’s it like to not live in fear of your parents judgment?

Sometimes I wonder who I’d be if I didn’t live in constant fear of my mother’s judgement.

I’ll think about things I want to do then I always instantly think about what she’d think about it. Knowing she’d sternly judge me. It’s weird how I don’t live with her anymore but I can’t shake her opinions from my head.

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fun4us2b · M

Mine have both passed - but I still follow what they would think....

It's a good circuit breaker for us so we don't mess up too bad...

Not the worst thing in the world when you think about it...

Aidan · 26-30, F

@fun4us2b Sure, but that really depends on whether what your parents instilled in you was actually in your best interests and aimed at your happiness.

Some parents are selfish and push their own desires so strongly that their child grows up without a real sense of personal identity.

Since moving away, I’ve been able to be more of myself, but I’m still close to my family. The problem is, even when I’m not around them, I’m burdened by the thought of their potential judgment. It feels like I’m constantly tiptoeing around just in case they find out about something.

I don’t live a very wild or unusual life, but their list of possible judgments is long and it’s exhausting to always have that in the back of my mind.

fun4us2b · M

@Aidan I know what you mean. Be patient with yourself....and them....as you get older it becomes more clear - they are from a different age, so of course not everything is the same. From the last sentence - it sounds like you are diligent and want to do the right thing...nothing wrong with that !!