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Ferise1 I saw a documentary about the evacuation of the last US Forces in Afghanistan and it was graphic and unflinching. Yet I still don’t know what it feels like to be in a crumbling security situation in a country on the verge of collapse at the end of an international conflict that was an active war zone. It doesn’t matter what you think you know from what you saw on a screen. I have been in a country where I stuck out like a sore thumb because I am about 6-12” taller and blonde. One of my travel companions didn’t follow the suggestions and was talking on her cell phone while walking down the street and she was the target of a snatch and grab with the thief running out into traffic so he could get away from me because I reactively took off running after him and dropped the bags of groceries in my hands. I lost my flip flops and my sunglasses when I tried to dodge the cars and I am told that I could have been seriously hurt by the accomplices who typically wait in a spot where the thief runs by so they can “eliminate” any possible threat to their successful theft. I know what it feels like to be a targeted victim.
I have seen 3 people drown on the bigger days at surf breaks like Mavericks and 3 at Ocean Beach SF. One person, a civilian was saved by a fire fighter who was breaking the law by using a jet ski to act as water safety and emergency services flew him to a nearby hospital for an induced coma that gave his body a chance to survive. However another surfer was the second professional surfers to die in 25 years in the same spot. Death doesn’t care about skill or logic.
I have seen a person jump to their death from the Golden Gate Bridge while I was getting out of the water at Fort Point. I didn’t realize that it was a person until someone in the water was nearly landed on and yelled for someone to call 911.
I have seen people die in various ways at backcountry and designated ski areas and didn’t think it affected me as much as the freak fatal accidental death by drowning of a child in a swimming pool. Which still haunts me to this day because I was redundant in the sense that 8 nurses and a doctor spent over 45 mins giving CPR as I could only watch and wait to direct the responding ambulance that was only useful for the transportation of a young corpse.
It doesn’t matter what you think you’ve seen or what you’ve been through (even first hand) because everything is different for everyone. No two people are alike and no two experiences can establish a rule. Even if you think you know what you know, you can’t know what you don’t know. Known unknowns and unknown unknowns are just that… and nothing more.