Do you ever have people telling you that you need to learn how to say 'no'?

Within two days, three people told me this. What's so wrong with trying to please people by saying yes?

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I have had a tendency to tell people my personal past too much and people hope I'm the most understanding to tell their personal past to. Though certain traumatic experiences just make me feel all of their pain and I don't how to relate, so I cannot really process what they are sharing. Making the assumption that you can be all things to all people can feel destructive if you don't set boundaries.