Renkon · M
When two people want different things, in different ways, and at different intensities, communication can become a quiet battlefield. Sometimes, one person simply wants to be heard — not advised, not debated, not matched with stories of your own. Just heard.
In those moments, you have a choice: Do you care enough to set aside your own needs — your urge to respond, to explain, or to be understood — and instead offer the gift of silence and presence?
If the answer is no, that’s okay. But be honest with yourself and them. Move on, or let them know you can’t be that listener right now.
In those moments, you have a choice: Do you care enough to set aside your own needs — your urge to respond, to explain, or to be understood — and instead offer the gift of silence and presence?
If the answer is no, that’s okay. But be honest with yourself and them. Move on, or let them know you can’t be that listener right now.
NOS4R2 · 41-45
No, but yes.
I've read your posts.
Youve been captured. Netted and gutted.
You are right where they want you, responding and caring - just like they want you to.
They've left you abandoned to yearn and seek them out, to validate them.
Emotional vampires do this.
Its how they feed.
They get you into a trauma bond so youll live on scraps of attention while they suck the soul from your skin. They draw out every drop of your heart until you are read to give up, and then they allow you some token of softness to ease you back into their web.
Its not unreasonable a request - from a normal person.
But from this type, yes, its asking what they will never give. They dont have the care to spare.
It was never about both of you. It was always about them.
It will always be about them.
Im so sorry
I've read your posts.
Youve been captured. Netted and gutted.
You are right where they want you, responding and caring - just like they want you to.
They've left you abandoned to yearn and seek them out, to validate them.
Emotional vampires do this.
Its how they feed.
They get you into a trauma bond so youll live on scraps of attention while they suck the soul from your skin. They draw out every drop of your heart until you are read to give up, and then they allow you some token of softness to ease you back into their web.
Its not unreasonable a request - from a normal person.
But from this type, yes, its asking what they will never give. They dont have the care to spare.
It was never about both of you. It was always about them.
It will always be about them.
Im so sorry
