How would you take this?

I wouldn’t feel dismissed at all. I’d feel like the recipient of some very encouraging news. That I’m no longer the helpless child who’s at the mercy of her abuser. That I’m an adult now who can take back my power and effect change and healing. That I’m in control of my future.

So far as the disability goes, I really wouldn’t continue to dwell on that. Sounds like she was trying to give you a realistic idea of how challenging it is to get approved. I’ve had some experience with that myself and know that a large percentage of people get turned down the first time and have to get an attorney involved to try a second time and still there are no guarantees.

I certainly wouldn’t stop seeing this therapist. They’re never gonna say the right thing every time. Their role is to guide you on the taking the reins on your path to healing and it sounds like that’s just what she’s doing. Because ultimately the outcome of your life is in your hands.

You know when it comes to shadow work, there is a fine line where seeing your wounds and shadows and working with them turns into a comfortable victimhood state.
So you need to be aware of when you are actually working with your issues and when you are using them as excuses to sabotage yourself from actual changing patterns that can feel most uncomfortable.
I'd think that therapy is uncomfortable to a certain extent. You're not met exactly with a friend who's going to nod listening to your story, but with someone you go to with an active intention for things to change.
I would be open with her about that. Tell her what you are telling here. How I felt dismissed. How I am confused if this is actually helping me. How is this helping me? What am I supposed to do with my trauma. Think back, not think back... Explain your confusion. See where she can guide you... Perhaps with her help clarify better your intentions of therapy.
Kudos to you for talking this step..:)

Therapy is often a fine line like many other relationships. If they always affirm, it might be somewhat enabling. Sometimes they say tough things. I’ve probably learned more from those than many others. It’s definitely hard at times tho. 🤗🤗

I have not been impressed with mental health professionals. A big time and money sink. One even told me to pray more. I'd find another person that would be more understanding to your trama. Having been there, you can never forget but you can learn to have it not interfere with your daily and relationship life.

As an adult, you have a choice who you allow in your life. As a child, you don’t. I think she’s hoping that’s a reality you understand.

Sounds like your therapist is using you for a paycheck and really don't give a shit about you.

Now that's my first impression I get from your post above.

Stuff my childhood is now starting to surface, because I'm starting to remember some of the real horrible stuff.

So hidden childhood trauma to resurface is not uncommon and good therapist would do something about it

My interpretation would be "You shouldn't be spoken down to like a child"

I would have taken it as you are an adult now. You no longer have to ever see or put up with her again.