What drastically changed the way you think about yourself?

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I think it was back in 2010. I had just been divorced, and I joined a Singles Support Group. The ex had kept me pretty isolated, and I hadn't been allowed to socialize with anyone except HIS family and mine. When I was finally able to be social...after 25 years...it was like a butterfly emerging from her cocoon!! It was awesome!

Adrift · 61-69, F

@4meAndyou I had a similar experience in 2011.
I started to be more selfish and do more things by myself and made friends outside of my family.
It was nice having an identity that was just mine and not an extension of someone else.

4meAndyou · F

@Adrift It would have been nice to be able to do that WHILE I was still married, but the ex was too controlling.