Why people stop talking to you
And how to fix it!
This may raise some hate, but honestly, this has been the biggest reason I have found as to why I stop talking to someone online.
Example 1:
Them: Hi
Me: Hi
Them: How are you?
Me: Good. And you?
Them: same.
Time passes
Them: What do you do for work
Me: *gives them a semi detailed explanation of my job* and you?
Them: I work [insert 1 - 2 word job description]
And the conversation just continues for however long till I get bored with these uninteresting one sentence answers.
There's no point in continuing. It's like pulling teeth. The other person has zero interest in actually holding a conversation. They are just filling time in hopes of...I honestly don't know. There will be no connection with me when the conversation can replace a reading primer.
"See Jane run."
"Run, Jane, run!"
*snore*
Be excited about your life! It's yours! You want people to like you! You want people to talk to you! Ask deeper questions that require more than just a few word sentence!
"But my life is boring"
Then don't be surprised when no one wants to talk to you. Why do they want to be equally bored with your life? Why do you want them to be bored with your life?
There must be a reason you do the work you do. There must be a reason you like the things you do. There must be a reason you enjoy certain hobbies. Talk about that! Let the person you are talking to understand and maybe feel why you do what you do!
I believe people have 5 things in their lives that they can wax poetic about. 5 things that they know like the back of their hand. There is nothing wrong with talking about those. They are important to you and actually let people know you as a person! If the other person knows about it, they can join in! If they don't, they can ask questions to find out more! And your passion makes them want to know.
So please, stop with the bland small talk. It's boring and is more than likely going to make your messages end when the other person gives up trying to find out why they should even care about responding.
Be amazing! It's your life! Share it with a passion!
This may raise some hate, but honestly, this has been the biggest reason I have found as to why I stop talking to someone online.
Example 1:
Them: Hi
Me: Hi
Them: How are you?
Me: Good. And you?
Them: same.
Time passes
Them: What do you do for work
Me: *gives them a semi detailed explanation of my job* and you?
Them: I work [insert 1 - 2 word job description]
And the conversation just continues for however long till I get bored with these uninteresting one sentence answers.
There's no point in continuing. It's like pulling teeth. The other person has zero interest in actually holding a conversation. They are just filling time in hopes of...I honestly don't know. There will be no connection with me when the conversation can replace a reading primer.
"See Jane run."
"Run, Jane, run!"
*snore*
Be excited about your life! It's yours! You want people to like you! You want people to talk to you! Ask deeper questions that require more than just a few word sentence!
"But my life is boring"
Then don't be surprised when no one wants to talk to you. Why do they want to be equally bored with your life? Why do you want them to be bored with your life?
There must be a reason you do the work you do. There must be a reason you like the things you do. There must be a reason you enjoy certain hobbies. Talk about that! Let the person you are talking to understand and maybe feel why you do what you do!
I believe people have 5 things in their lives that they can wax poetic about. 5 things that they know like the back of their hand. There is nothing wrong with talking about those. They are important to you and actually let people know you as a person! If the other person knows about it, they can join in! If they don't, they can ask questions to find out more! And your passion makes them want to know.
So please, stop with the bland small talk. It's boring and is more than likely going to make your messages end when the other person gives up trying to find out why they should even care about responding.
Be amazing! It's your life! Share it with a passion!
