I find it interesting...

...that when you respond to someone with the same tone they spoke to you in, they either become enamored or insulted, depending on the tone.

If they become insulted, it is usually because they don't like to have themselves mirrored. Then they insist they weren't being the way you returned to them.

This is why knowing the way you communicate and how what you type is read by other people is important. I'm sure it's uncomfortable when someone shows they know exactly the tone you put into it.

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dancingtongue · 80-89, M

Basic de-escalation skill: if someone is yelling at you or taunting you, remain calm and rational. Either you talk them down, or they move on. Unfortunately, in our rush to militarize our police forces with SWAT teams and surplus armored vehicles during the "Peace Dividend" paring down of the military after the Cold War was presumably won, de-escalation skills were dropped from too many police utility belts and only now is being restored to training and priorities in too many police forces.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, FNew

@dancingtongue usually, if I'm mirroring, it isn't to try and make friends. I'm trying to show them how it feels to be the target of their behavior.

However, I agree with your summation of police de-escalation. It has stopped being anything more than a tazer or gun.