how should you react to someone who is reluctant to interact with you

There was a user here on SW who had that experience at work with a co-worker. She felt that her friendliness toward the co-worker's boyfriend had been misunderstood, so she went out of her way to be friendly toward this woman. It took a lot of work, but now they are casual friends!

I understand that you have a lot of trouble behaving in a friendly way, and that you get angry very easily, so perhaps this person senses those elements of your personality, and wants to protect themselves.