How on Earth do you think positively when your brain is wired for negativity?

I really, really struggle with this.

I don't know how many times in my life I've tried to reframe my thinking to a more positive mindset, only to eventually slip right back to negativity, often without even realizing it until it's too late and what little progress I made is gone.

I'm so tired of trying over and over again, only for it to never work out. I'm pretty convinced at this point that positive thinking is impossible for me (I know, that's a negative thought, but very much backed by my own experiences).

What on Earth do you do? Can it even be done?

I've been challenged to a week of positive thinking by a family member and have been failing miserably since day one (now on day three with zero progress whatsoever). I genuinely believe the negative thoughts and cannot for the life of me take the positive ones seriously, as I feel they are false hope and unrealistic.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

You have a choice upon how you live your life. If you want to spend it thinking negatively, then that is what you will get from life. You are young and have many, many years left to live. I suggest you try much harder or you will end up alone, bitter, unhappy, and all the other negatives. So smarten up. And, yes, thinking positively can be done.

Umile · 41-45, F

@PoetryNEmotion You sound just like my mother. And I mean that in the best possible way.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Umile Mothers are often right. I am a mother. I have learned to change my mindset. I was unhappily married for many years. It was negative in all its ways. So I changed it. I changed my mindset. I became free. Anyone can choose to change. It does take effort. Repeated attempts. The benefits are numerous. The person who posted is in the twenties generation. They are many who are depressed, coddled, don't want to work for a living. They need to get stronger. They have choices. Thank you.