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OogieBoogie · F
Fragile ego ....or jealousy ?
The need to lie to a third party about someone to demean them is a chicken shit move .
The need to lie to a third party about someone to demean them is a chicken shit move .

SW-User
@OogieBoogie It is. Because it seems to be hurting the person they are whispering lies to. For me, it will be gone and forgotten quickly because I am not invested in the story. Mostly just a nuisance right now and confusing.
OogieBoogie · F
@SW-User Welli...it's process brings people's true nature's into the light eventually .
1 - the person doing the lying .
2 - the people willing to Believe it 🤷
At work, we have someone like this ....and most people fawn to them .
But the interesting thing is, when they aren't there - everyone is happier, more relaxed and laugh more....and get along better.
Which I think is very telling .
To me it means, they aren't friends with this person out of genuine affection and respect, they are 'friends' with them only so they aren't a target.
A friendship made of Fear and falsity is basically a very fragile one 🙄....in fact, I question if it's one at all 🤔
1 - the person doing the lying .
2 - the people willing to Believe it 🤷
At work, we have someone like this ....and most people fawn to them .
But the interesting thing is, when they aren't there - everyone is happier, more relaxed and laugh more....and get along better.
Which I think is very telling .
To me it means, they aren't friends with this person out of genuine affection and respect, they are 'friends' with them only so they aren't a target.
A friendship made of Fear and falsity is basically a very fragile one 🙄....in fact, I question if it's one at all 🤔

SW-User
@OogieBoogie worth thinking about. Sometimes people encourage such friends because a part of them enjoys that toxicity. They end up gaslighting themselves when they refuse to listen to the nudges of their feelings.
OogieBoogie · F
@SW-User true ...true .