I don’t hardly PM at all, ever. Just because I flirt a little with some random girls on public post? This was very hurtful and makes me wonder if I should even be here at all. I love my fiancée.
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@PepsiColaP I don’t remember what I said but I do apologize. I don’t usually flirt unless I feel like the person is flirting with me but I’m sure I’ve made mistakes. That’s not the same as a predator, though. And I almost never PM anymore. Not trying to downplay anything I did, though. If you felt sexualized without your consent, I very much apologize.
@PepsiColaP Sometimes teasing can go too far. Everyone has different boundaries and feelings. Did you talk to her about it and ask her to stop and that you felt it was inappropriate? Was it resolved? Do you need help talking about it? Why are you bringing it up here?
@Scribbles never. I’ve literally read through a dozen pages already. We kinda got a little more than flirty when I was very first hooking up with my fiancée but that was over two years ago. It was seeming to be reciprocal, though.
t@JustGoneNow i wasnt flirting with you but you were sending me pictures of sex toys telling me how you would please me with them etc. i did feel uncomfortable but you were far more known and liked than me at the time i didnt pursue it further,plus people i was close with at the time thought highly of you. so i just avoided the entire conversation and you and tried to move on. although i still have it in our pms and it is not something i have forgotten @Scribbles lmao. bcs she asked. and me not reacting to it doesnt excuse what she did . i didnt react at the time bcs i was uncomfortable and honestly startled. idc anymore,and since she wants honest.feedback i will be honest about my experience with her
@Scribbles I’m gonna keep reading, though. Because predatory is not who I am, and if I did… I want to know.
That still doesn’t mean that her feelings aren’t valid, though. Wether she reciprocated… or wether I truly went too far, isn’t completely the point. If she felt sexualized unduely, I apologize either way.
@PepsiColaP That makes sense to me. You went along with it because you didn’t want to insult me but it also made you feel very uncomfortable. That’s fair and I am sorry. I did read that part, I just felt you were responding in kind because you said you were thinking about maybe even getting the vibe I showed you. I wish we had cleared this up at the time, though. Makes me feel horrible that I made you feel that way. It was not intentional… but I do apologize. 🖤
@JustGoneNow i didnt go along with it,dont twist your actions or mine. i avoided it completely while you were telling me you would paddle me and make my legs shake etc. and the next day you were threatening suicide and mentioned me specifically to hanni which made me feel bad and like checking on you ,after avoiding you and even though i wanted to continue to avoid you
@PepsiColaP I won’t show all of the PM’s because it’s against TOS but that doesn’t line up with what I’ve read. I never mentioned you ever to Hanni. That’s either a misunderstanding or a lie. Nothing you have ever done has made me feel su!c!dal. I remember you being very helpful sometimes when I was really dark. You were a good friend and suddenly there was a lot of distance. I didn’t know what happened but if it’s because you thought I blamed you for something and went su!c!dal about it that totally makes sense to me. So many of these things could have just been cleared up by talking to me, though.
@PepsiColaP actually nvm, I can as long as I blot the names. This was the page of comments right before I showed you the vibrator and stuff. It’s true that you said nothing after but this was right before. I’m sorry, I got the wrong idea… but it’s very reasonable that I would. Two things, though. I’m sorry if I made you feel sexualized without your consent, regardless of how it went done. And even more, I’m sorry if you felt like I blamed you for something that wasn’t even about you because that would suck coming from a friend. I truly wish you had talked to me but I do get how you might or felt and even your reluctance to address it at all.
@PepsiColaP merely a crush. We are allowed crushes while in a relationship. And I posted our comments in PM literally right before that… that you left out.
@PepsiColaP I feel like you are really mad. I’m not. I’ve always liked you and for my part in this… I am sorry. But I won’t let you paint me like a predator, as I’m not. Doesn’t mean that I’m not sorry… I just truly wish I had known because I’m overall a pretty good person.
@JustGoneNow youre ridiculous. you dont want people to be honest with you or to acknowledge your wrongdoings ,you just want their pity and sympathy to excuse your predatory behaviour
@PepsiColaP did you read your comments too? I am sorry for my actions that made you feel sexualized without your consent. Based on this conversation, I’m going to be even more careful going forward because I never want to make anyone feel how you clearly did. That’s on me. That’s what I did. But I’m no predator. Based on comments before… it’s reasonable why I would think you were interested, although clearly I was wrong and I’m sorry.
@JustGoneNow my comments showed no interest ,you just interpret them as whatever you want,to go ahead and do whatever you want . i didnt give my consent to any sex chat and even if anyone did why would you go ahead and imply doing sexual things to them anyway since you were in a relationship? one excuse after the other
@PepsiColaP that was the thread. Tying people up sexually. maybe you felt like you were supposed to and didn’t want to make waves… I can totally see that, if that’s the case, but it’s reasonable that I would think you were interested. That’s all I’m saying.
@JustGoneNow not only do you act like a predator but you talk like one too . no one can tell you to stop because you start to threaten suicide or make excuses for yourself as to how you have a gf and would never do anything . all while making others uncomfortable and pushing over and over with your sex posts ,flirtatious comments etc. i didnt say stop and you start talking about using dildos on me the dildos and paddles,telling me how you would make me shake and squirm. how is me saying in a comment ohlala and marry me inviting that?i am and was afraid of you and your influence here and tried to be neutral/nice as to not have you guilt trip me/threaten suicide or god knows what else. even now you wont take accountability and keep trying to excuse this and fake my consent
@PepsiColaP You’re misreading me. I literally said the same thing above… that maybe you felt like you had to go along. That’s fair. And I am sorry. I will be further adjusting how I do things in the future… but it’s also reasonable that I would get the wrong idea. You said oh La La, marry me and yes with the kissy face emoji not in a normal thread but one with heavy sexual content. I’ve never threatened su!c!de because of what happens here. That’s because of my depression and mental illness which we have also talked about. I understand why you thought these things but it’s just not the reality of it. What is real, is how you felt. And I am truly sorry, because I don’t want to have people feel like you did because of my actions.
@PepsiColaP im reading this thread and just glanced at the screenshots. All i had to see is you mention marriage. To me, that didn't sound like the response prey would give predator.
