I don't understand people here

They proactively message privately, they befriend you, they make you talk , they make you express, they give you an impression you are becoming good friends and for no apparent reason they stop responding to your private messages.

But they are here quite active responding to others and you know this because you have common friends.

If you have no intent to remain consistent WTF even bother to get involved so much. Don't lead them on. Better limit yourself to posts and comments. Quit playing with emotions.

Most men here are so much fun and chilled out to interact with. I enjoy talking to them. Very few women here are sensitive and polite and they are my friends.

Edit:
If you are gonna defend this behaviour there's a likelihood you can relate to it.

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SW-User

🤷 I always make it clear I'm not the best person to continue private chats with.
I don't like getting into those kind of obligation. Sometimes I just want to pass time on qna.

SW-User

@SW-User You have always been straightforward and i always respected u for that . Because i do love most of your thoughts 🤣

StarLily · 51-55, F

@SW-User I'm the same way. I can be horrible at keeping up with private messages. I try to be upfront with people about it so I don't upset anyone... but even then I fail sometimes.

SW-User

@StarLily There will always be those who will take badly to it. It happens to me too and it's unfortunate that people feel so entitled to being responded to.

StarLily · 51-55, F

@SW-User That's a perfect way to describe it... "entitled". The last thing I want is to upset someone... but those kind of people zap my energy. I just can't keep up with them.

SW-User

@StarLily I used to be that way, didn't want to upset other people and used to go with the flow. I'd give and give and give. But when you keep giving people will keep taking and not give a damn one way or another. That's just the nature of people.
I don't care if I upset anyone anymore. It's not my responsibility to manage their emotions.

SW-User

@StarLily why do they affect if you have never been good friends with them? I simply ignore if someone's messaging me continuously who I'm not friends with.

R u ignoring someone who u befriended and became good friends with?

SW-User

@SW-User wow! You are blunt. Although i understand what u r saying but that sounded harsh and insensitive

SW-User

@SW-User But the truth. It is really not my responsibility to manage other peoples emotions if they can't be mature enough to respect my boundaries. I've received messages shaming me and calling me names because I won't respond. Lol... so yeah I don't mind being perceived harsh and insensitive. I will at least have my peace of mind.

SW-User

@SW-User As i said i understand where you come from but im glad i got to see this side to you.

SW-User

@SW-User Lol, if you say so.

SW-User

@SW-User whatever

SW-User

@SW-User you can quit being a bully here. Because frankly your tone is insensitive and i abhor such kind in my friends list

SW-User

@SW-User Wow, lol. I don't know where you're getting those ideas from. None of what I said is directed at you and yet you seem to take it personally. I'm just stating what is true to me and for me. You don't have to like it. Don't get on the path of name calling here. x

StarLily · 51-55, F

@SW-User Exactly.

SW-User

@SW-User i know it's not directed at me. But you are being insensitive to people who must be sensitive. You call this name calling? I haven't even started. Lol Because trust me i am capable of being far more harsh than you can ever think of putting in words. But i do that to people who r bad to others

StarLily · 51-55, F

@SW-User No, I don't intentionally ignore people that are my friends... that's why I let them know I often struggle to keep up with messages, or am sometimes here to just be active on posts.

I do have boundaries though... and I'm sure some like to interpret that as being ignored.

SW-User

@StarLily That i understand. I do that too. i am quite straightforward in that regard to tell them about it too.