How is your relationship with your parents and did it change while growing up?

My relationship with my father didn't change much up until his death 5 years ago. I think there's been a certain degree of strain with my mother since soon after. I don't think she likes me, which's too bad. Then again, I'm not sure I like her, either. We still love each other, but I think a closer relationship would be preferable.
Tbh, I've long accepted to just cut my losses & focus more on other more easily controllable things.