Does your heart ever still hurt because you miss someone you lost?

I lost someone very close to me nearly a year ago and it still hurts like hell. The anniversary is next week. I've had real ups and downs. Naturally feeling low as the first year comes close to passing. I miss them so much it physically hurts. I just wanna cry. I just want to talk to them. But I've been told over and over again that it's been a year and I should just get over it. It's been so long I can't be sad anymore. That's not fair.