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Is it bad if I don't want to get married ever?

I am currently 30 yrs old. I've been getting a bit of pressure from people close to me to think about getting married and having kids. Most of my mates have gotten married, had kids, or they are engaged. To be honest, I don't believe in marriage and don't want to get married. I just don't see myself as a Family type of guy. I don't want kids either.

I just don't want to get emotionally attached to someone then get my heart broken or cheated on. To me, relationships aren't as valued as before. We live in an era where having a side chick or side guy is the norm. I am speaking from a guys perspective, good women are hard to find these days. Most women that are attracted to me want so much from a guy and have little to offer but looks. Lots of women these days feel because they look a certain way, that they deserve the world (social media has a lot to do with this, #instagrammodels). I'm the type of guys that values personality and morals over looks. However, I've come across lots of women who have a lot to offer besides looks, but those are the ones that are usually taken or don't want a relationship.
Kidreamer
31-35, M
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ArishMell · 70-79, M
Why should it bad? It's what you feel right for yourself that matters. I've never been sure about marriage but have always wanted never to have children. Being an uncle is enough.

I would take issue with your last sentence though. Yes, there are indeed many women who are attractive but also have more than looks to offer; and yes, most women seem to have a long list of expectations. Indeed that covers most of the many I have met socially or at work in many places over many years; but also most were already going steady or were married too.

I would say there are very few women (and men) who actually do not want a relationship.

(Women might not want that relationship with me, but that's a different matter!)

Nor am I convinced that "a bit on the side" is anything like "the norm" despite TV dramas and gossip-columns giving that impression. I don't suppose adultery is all that common, and no more so than it always was; though it was perhaps easier to be secretive about it in the past.
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Aidan · 26-30, F
Almost every man I meet these days is polyamorous 30 and over and might have a kid and is unmarried. Marriage is not a norm anymore do what you please
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breezeblocks · 31-35, F
It’s your choice, you don’t have to do things that you don’t want to do simply to make other people happy.

You do you.
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SW-User
Don’t do it if you don’t want to.
You’ll only be sad. Better to know what you want and stick to it.
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HeteroDox · 41-45, F
we all have our reason, dude... go your own way.
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NankerPhelge · 61-69, M
@HeteroDox That's a good idea, tell him to listen to Fleetwood Mac.
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HeteroDox · 41-45, F
@NankerPhelge thats...one takeaway I guess.
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TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP
If I had a dollar for every person who I heard say that and ended up married.. 😏👍
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curiosi · 61-69, F
What's bad is not living for you and bowing to the pressure of others.
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FreeOrchid · 36-40, F
I think this is a very honest post and very valid. I truly don’t think marriage is necessary. It’s a desire.

I love being single now and my space.

I have been married (divorced) and I have kids, but I honestly question if I have the personality to be a partner again.
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Laughman · 46-50, M
Never underestimate the power of being able to wake up on Saturday/Sunday morning and being able to do whatever you. I think living on your own helps to discipline your lifestyle as well as you are the the one responsible for managing money and your health.
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NankerPhelge · 61-69, M
No, it's your choice.
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ExtremeNext · 31-35
Yes
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