"Narcissist" culture.
I disagree with the "Narcissist" culture that is so prevalent these days. Look anywhere, Youtube, Social media, the people in your school, home, workplace and you will find things like "How to avoid a Narcissist" "How to identify a Narcissist" "Top 5 signs of Narcissism" "I hate Narcissists"
EDIT: (Wanted to add this) A lot of the videos and articles of this nature can be really unhealthy and trigger anxiety ruminations for people with anxiety/low self esteem. A big anxiety of mine is that I have NPD (I don't) and I know several other people with anxiety with this fear. I wanted to make this post in part to help calm people with these anxieties down.
The word Narcissism is actually a personality trait that everyone has in varying amounts.
The disorder NPD, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a Personality Disorder in Cluster B. Cluster B PDs include NPD, HPD, BPD, and ASPD.
It seems to me that "Narcissist" is thrown around as in insult when people do not like or agree with someone else's behavior. It is a serious condition that only qualified professionals can diagnose. There are many people who may well be eligible for diagnosis (And people close to suspect they have NPD) and are unwilling to seek treatment.
I understand the impact and lasting pain people close to those with high traits associated with NPD (or NPD itself) have to endure. I have been there myself. However, two wrongs do not make a right. No matter the size.
If we stand for everyone with mental illness and mental health conditions then we cannot cherry pick. We can accept that what was done to us was wrong and learn that we were not to blame. To silence the voice embedded in our minds telling us that we are the ones at fault, that we are bad and wrong. Because we're not.
Your experience is valid, your pain is real. But please be careful how you use the word "Narcissist". It is okay to be angry. But it feels like we are splitting the sea. There are harmonious ways to heal.
EDIT: (Wanted to add this) A lot of the videos and articles of this nature can be really unhealthy and trigger anxiety ruminations for people with anxiety/low self esteem. A big anxiety of mine is that I have NPD (I don't) and I know several other people with anxiety with this fear. I wanted to make this post in part to help calm people with these anxieties down.
The word Narcissism is actually a personality trait that everyone has in varying amounts.
The disorder NPD, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a Personality Disorder in Cluster B. Cluster B PDs include NPD, HPD, BPD, and ASPD.
It seems to me that "Narcissist" is thrown around as in insult when people do not like or agree with someone else's behavior. It is a serious condition that only qualified professionals can diagnose. There are many people who may well be eligible for diagnosis (And people close to suspect they have NPD) and are unwilling to seek treatment.
I understand the impact and lasting pain people close to those with high traits associated with NPD (or NPD itself) have to endure. I have been there myself. However, two wrongs do not make a right. No matter the size.
If we stand for everyone with mental illness and mental health conditions then we cannot cherry pick. We can accept that what was done to us was wrong and learn that we were not to blame. To silence the voice embedded in our minds telling us that we are the ones at fault, that we are bad and wrong. Because we're not.
Your experience is valid, your pain is real. But please be careful how you use the word "Narcissist". It is okay to be angry. But it feels like we are splitting the sea. There are harmonious ways to heal.
