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Does anyone else hate it when people don't reply to messages?

Want to start by saying I'm not calling anyone out on here, just venting about other crap. It's like, it's not "socially acceptable" to text directly after sending a message. Or even any time afterward, because all it does is give the impression that you're needy or that you don't have a life/even that you're a little creepy. But those things aren't always true, at all. Actually, if you're really interested in a conversation you're having with someone and they suddenly stop replying for days whilst still post on social media/you hear from friends that they've been speaking with them you're kind of left wondering if you've said something wrong/ you've upset them. i don't get it. leads me to believe I'm the weird one. every. single. time. Is it wrong to enjoy talking to someone/be disappointed when they don't respond?

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LilPuckBunny · F

I am one of these bad communicators. Happens for various reasons:
1. You read the message but don't have time to write the reply you want to leave at that point.
2. You compose the reply in your head which leads you to think you've replied. You yourself are surprised later to see you haven't.
3. You don't have much time at that point.
4. You only want to message up to a point then no matter how much you like the person, it feels like hardwork to keep it up continuously in a never-ending continuum.
5. (This one only fits in SW) The person who messaged you chose to message you. You replied out of politeness.
6. You would reply but you just can't think of anything else to say / don't know what to say.

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ShaythePanTransMan · 22-25, T

@LilPuckBunny yeah me too. It’s really annoying why can’t our thoughts become words

LilPuckBunny · F

@ShaythePanTransMan Because I'd get drunk and send terrible messages everywhere by accident. 😆

ShaythePanTransMan · 22-25, T

@LilPuckBunny oh truee

LadyGrace · 70-79

No. It's not wrong at all. In fact, it's quite rude to be messaging someone and then they all of a sudden drop off without having the courtesy to tell you they are leaving. It's also rude to leave you hanging for a couple or three days.

CalmUnderThePalm · 31-35, M

Just put 3 dots. It works at times!

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LilPuckBunny · F

@codedlyoko I think you're better sending a follow up message rather than dots or question marks.
Someone I really care about sent me question marks recently. I felt mild rage. 😂
If I knew them less well /liked them less my stubborn streak would tell me not to reply.

codedlyoko · 22-25, M

Yeah honestly that makes more sense to me. The dots would probably come off as really pushy and the question marks... can definitely see how those would be worse XD

CalmUnderThePalm · 31-35, M

It was just a suggestion 🤷‍♂️

SW-User

I can't say I have a life. But it only pisses me off if they're choosing not to ignore me for no reason. Or if it's vitally important, or if they aren't busy, message me, and then just disappear.

codedlyoko · 22-25, M

@SW-User Yeah, that's more or less what I meant actually

SW-User

@codedlyoko Yeah I know.

ShaythePanTransMan · 22-25, T

Ehhh? No offense, but it bothers me when people complain about something they’re doing themselves.

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ShaythePanTransMan · 22-25, T

@codedlyoko It’s fine, I don’t really mind that much, but I couldn’t let you go without mentioning it ;) Hehe.

codedlyoko · 22-25, M

Haha, true enough. 😅

ShaythePanTransMan · 22-25, T

Asm0deus · F

usually I find people like that hella clingy and never want to talk all the time.

codedlyoko · 22-25, M

@Asm0deus See, I get that. But this is like, one message after the initial one that seems weird. Just one, and then when there's no reply you kinda have to wonder.

Asm0deus · F

Then that means they’re not interested.

KyleTX · M

I understand you.

SkeetSkeet · 100+, F

No.

Lilnonames · F

Yup its annoying i tell people im talking to if they must go let me know i give two chances after that dont care who u r u r blocked.if its an emergency i understand not hard to type gotta go

codedlyoko · 22-25, M

@Lilnonames Well, I don't want to be too pushy and I feel like blocking them is rather counterintuitive since I want to talk to them 😂

Lilnonames · F

@codedlyoko dont bother me.im sure not gonna worry about someone ill never meet or see.and nothings that important on here anyway its ok i stopped adding and inboxing

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