What books can i read to help work on my emotions?

When i say 'yes', i mean 'yes and when i say 'no', i mean 'no'. But so far, this attitude has caused me so much pain. I say yes and get into whatever it is with all my heart and strength and expect the same level of commitment but i always get disappointed. I get hurt and i feel the pain deeply and for too long. Can someone advise on any books i can read to help me work on myself before i get consumed by my emotions? People have taken advantage of it for too long.

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Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

I believe in the same kind of integrity to ones self.
It might be that you've dealt with immature people or people who have trouble communicating as strongly as you, so perhaps it's intimidating to them while it would be refreshing to you if reciprocated.
I commend that btw.

I take the same attitude after being naive in the past as well.

MaryN · 36-40, F

I just love it when people are honest and straightforward. Things are always easier when you straighten them out from the onset. But some people will want to keep dragging you along even when they know they have no destination.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@MaryN Yeah those people tend to not respect others in that way, or recognise that they are in fact being disrespectful or irresponsible.
It's like If you have power in the relationship then they feel they have none, when it's supposed to be two people negotiating equally and compromising. It's just the wrong approach entirely.