How to cope with GOOD BIG changes in life?

I am a very anxious person who likes to be in control of everything in her life. I grew up not having parents or a secure childhood and the minute I became successful and could take care of myself, I felt there a power and I grew out of this.
BUT this year is going to be a big year of changes for me. I am getting married to the love of my life and we are having a long awaited baby together. I have been looking forward to these things happening for a long time and I couldn't be happier. I do feel like, this anxiety is disabling me to truly enjoy these moments. Instead I stress over stressing,future finances,babies health,the delivery, my social anxiety for the wedding ceremony... It just all feels likes it happening at the speed of light and I am not in control of the future being unpredictable. So, whats your best advice on how to enjoy these moments? How do you calm yourself down? What do you say to yourself?

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4meAndyou · F

I think you might want to talk to a therapist about your anxiety and control issues...AFTER your wedding. It is extremely common for children of dysfunctional parents to feel anxiety to such a degree that they become control freaks. I was married to one of them, and it is not a good experience. Before you begin raising a child, I suggest you address your control issues, otherwise you will drive your own child away.

As far as the GOOD things that are happening in your life, enjoy the hell out of them. Life is very short.

Optimisticbird · 26-30, F

@4meAndyou I like being in control of my life but not of other people. I have never tried nore wished to control someone. I do have expectations of people at times, but mostly end up disappointed. I admit this is not a great trait bc it leaves me feeling hurt and disappointed but I would never drive my kid away. Because of the fact I had these dysfunctional parents, I have learned what NOT to do. As for the enjoyment part, I am trying really hard to live in the moment but I do need someone to talk sense into me