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Live the every second of the moment. Time never comes back.
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NiftyWhite 路 46-50, F
My wedding was also very stressful for me and i married much older, was financially prepared. Honestly i didn鈥檛 care about the wedding details - that wasn鈥檛 stressful - but having to go through the day itself seemed like a dreadful thing because i don鈥檛 like attention. My hubby on the other hand LOVES it.
It seemed like the weeks after the wedding i was also very stressed. I am not sure why but i was in a mild panic mode. I didn鈥檛 enjoy those weeks. overall the first year of marriage was very hard for me. I鈥檓 in my second now and it鈥檚 easier but there are other stressors now not related to my marriage that stress me out: I am starting to think anxiety is just a pervasive part of my life since my mom died a few years ago . I mean good transitions are stressful enough but losing a parent was life altering for me more than any other change.
This is a blurb of an answer. I guess my advice is, you can鈥檛 control everything. You don鈥檛 have all the answers at any age. It鈥檚 also OK to make mistakes. And don鈥檛 try to live up to other people鈥檚 expectations
It seemed like the weeks after the wedding i was also very stressed. I am not sure why but i was in a mild panic mode. I didn鈥檛 enjoy those weeks. overall the first year of marriage was very hard for me. I鈥檓 in my second now and it鈥檚 easier but there are other stressors now not related to my marriage that stress me out: I am starting to think anxiety is just a pervasive part of my life since my mom died a few years ago . I mean good transitions are stressful enough but losing a parent was life altering for me more than any other change.
This is a blurb of an answer. I guess my advice is, you can鈥檛 control everything. You don鈥檛 have all the answers at any age. It鈥檚 also OK to make mistakes. And don鈥檛 try to live up to other people鈥檚 expectations
Optimisticbird 路 26-30, F
@NiftyWhite I'm sorry you had to go through these changes all at once. Good and bad... I think the thought of trying to make everyone happy is stressful because its almost impossible. Also everyone sharing their input and thoughts is annoying.
NiftyWhite 路 46-50, F
yes. i did what i wanted and almost no one argued about it to my face. they complained behind my back.... but not to my face (ex. wedding stuff) @Optimisticbird
4meAndyou 路 F
I think you might want to talk to a therapist about your anxiety and control issues...AFTER your wedding. It is extremely common for children of dysfunctional parents to feel anxiety to such a degree that they become control freaks. I was married to one of them, and it is not a good experience. Before you begin raising a child, I suggest you address your control issues, otherwise you will drive your own child away.
As far as the GOOD things that are happening in your life, enjoy the hell out of them. Life is very short.
As far as the GOOD things that are happening in your life, enjoy the hell out of them. Life is very short.
Optimisticbird 路 26-30, F
@4meAndyou I like being in control of my life but not of other people. I have never tried nore wished to control someone. I do have expectations of people at times, but mostly end up disappointed. I admit this is not a great trait bc it leaves me feeling hurt and disappointed but I would never drive my kid away. Because of the fact I had these dysfunctional parents, I have learned what NOT to do. As for the enjoyment part, I am trying really hard to live in the moment but I do need someone to talk sense into me
english 路 56-60, M
dont lump them all together cos they wont happen that way take each one as it comes you get overwhelmed .馃檭 congrats hun