Do you think being honest is inherently negative?

Evidently being “too honest” can come off as being negative or rude. I’m a very blunt person, and while I’m not extensively rude the way I speak rubs others the wrong way at times. Ex: I pointed out to a coworker that because our inventory is doubling the work load will be more rigorous. Their response was saying I was being negative.

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

Being 'blunt' does not equate to being honest.
Being blunt is an excuse some folk use for expressing an opinion when one wasn't called for.
Being blunt is being rude because it takes nothing into consideration OTHER than that persons 'want' to express themselves in such a way DESPITE the fact (unless you're incredibly socially inept) that you KNOW you shouldn't behave that way.

I get that some folk feel more comfortable presenting themselves this way.
But don't ever use it as an excuse or some kind of 'badge of honour' because you HAVE to know, do it too often and it just pisses EVERYBODY you come into contact with.!
Family. Friends. Colleagues etc.

I've heard this line of excuse/reason endlessly throughout my career.
Like it's some sort of "I have a disorder so I have no responsibility!' reasoning.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@Picklebobble2 ^this.

lequack · 26-30, F

@Picklebobble2 In the example I gave that was me being “blunt” . I get some people use it as an excuse to be rude, but that’s not how I am. I just state facts about a situation when a topic arises. Even if those facts aren’t what others want to hear. I’m not rude just matter of fact like the example I gave above. Nothing about that was negative just the reality of work load is going to be doubled.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@lequack Im not disagreeing with you.
And don't take anything I said as some sort of personal attack.
I don't KNOW you !

You may well feel that your response to that particular issue was valid and logical and made perfect sense.

But as I said. Be careful in how far your 'honesty' goes.
Because every time you feel good about it, chances are somebody you're being 'honest' to will end up feeling like sh*t ! BECAUSE of it !

And as I said, if you think this is the way to be, be prepared for it to come back at you in a way that will be because that person will have had to deal with your 'honesty' for a long time !