Is it crazy to think couples in this day and age won't cheat on each other?

That doesn’t last long as people soon find that. What next? @Laughman

@Spoiledbrat Honestly I'm not sure. I read quickly here that there is a significant issue with morals. I watched a doco a few months back about younger people and relationships. To them relationships don't exist. They just use each other for sex. People need to focus on what qualities they like in their partner. But the true trick is keeping the spark alive with new ideas and outings which is bloody hard, believe me.

I can’t speak for younger people. They may be on the look out and keeping their options open for longer before committing to just one person. I don’t think there’s necessarily a right way. People who stay in long marriage aren’t always happier for it. @Laughman

@Spoiledbrat is that true. I find people stay in bad marriages for the sake of financial security, or maybe the sex is incredible:)

@Spoiledbrat damn it's exciting to see that little yellow 1 in the notifications. Get that hit of dopamine going!

It’s not just for financial security. People invest in their marriage and it can be difficult for some people to walk away from a large personal investment. @Laughman

@Spoiledbrat yep I'd agree. Especially these days you need 2 incomes to buy a house and raise kids. When you add it all up it's 100's of 1000's of dollars.

@Laughman THAT is the #1 problem....Too many people try to build a lasting relationship based mainly on that initial rush at the beginning of new relationships...and it doesn't work let alone last. That is what brings people together, not what holds them together. Lust and infatuation are like sand and you cannot build or sustain a solid relationship let alone a solid marriage on it. And time and familiarity may change that initial "excitement" and "thrill"...but it doesn't by any means take it away if the relationship is solidly built in the first place. There is nothing "boring" about any of it if your priorities are in order.

@indyjoe I agree. Relationships do take work, from both partners. I'm finding nowadays people don't want to put the work in. I tried tirelessly for years to make my marriage work, it wasn't from lack of effort. It's a scary concept that people give up so easily. It's nice to see that there are still people out there in it for the long haul.

I don’t think a lack of thrill is the contributing factor. I think it’s fair to say that some people are no longer happy. Let’s face it most people do not get to live up their full potential. I think this also contributes to how how we behave and we see our significant other. @Gypsy11

@Spoiledbrat and why are SO many people unhappy now a days? What's changed? Is it social media? People comparing lives and becoming envious or others glorifying their lives because it lacks in reality? Why aren't people happy with what they have? It just seems to be a common thread lately. Nit with everyone, but more than it was say, 20-40 years ago.

@Spoiledbrat gypsy11 is most likely correct as we don't want to put in the effort. I find it hard because sometimes the effort only equals a small reward and you sit there thinking 'whats the point?'. Men and woman are different machines and how we connect.

@Gypsy11 that's a good point. Social media is a common curse on is all. We are all desperately trying to outdo each other. Look at everyone's profile, they all have amazing lives, no sad days or an ordinary life. It's the desire to stand out and be the centre of attention that is our downfall.

@Gypsy11 That is true, too many people give up too easily (they are getting lazy when it comes to relationships). On the other side of it there are many people who hold on too long when it's obviously not good or working. It is never totally perfect or easy because nothing in life ever is (and people aren't either), but it doesn't have to be a lot of hard work and a struggle all the time. My wife and I have had tough times and rough spots that we have had to overcome and see through together...but none of it had anything to do with our relationship itself. Our relationship has always just come naturally, and keeping it honest and sacred to just us is not hard to do. PEOPLE complicate situations and create problems often more than what is really there.

I disagree because a lack of effort can also attributed to a lack of interest and respect. @Laughman