As far as how the behavior is formed is concerned, I think it's self-image and analysis of one's own behavior that's key.
If I see myself as victimized and helpless, I can pretty much expect to remain victimized and helpless. If I see myself as complicit in my troubles, then I can see that if I did something that helped make me a victim, I can see ways to get out of it and not do it again.
I think this behavior depends on the different situation from each individual. It can be both predetermined and formed over time. In common, fear usually predetermined and strength usually formed over time. Fear could be formed over time, too. But fear always comes first, strength comes later, because fear is the source of strength.
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Not bending to the will of others and being themselves makes someone strong, while weakness to me would be the opposite.
@SW-User I agree. For me, "strong" is something that can represent many elements. It can be about physical, mental, personality, skill, and talent. The major thing that makes a strong person is their ability to overcome their weakness, overcome their shadow, overcome the obstacles within themselves. Accept the risk, accept the fear, accept themselves, and not afraid to change. Learning to know to control and improve themselves. And make their flaws become the strength.
On the other hand, the thing that makes a weak person is their fear. People always have fear, but if they let it control them, that means they are not strong enough to control it. Not strong enough to accept the fear, accept the flaws, accept themselves. And it led to the problem that they are too afraid to change because they don't want to take the risk.
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@SW-User ooo, that is very nicely said, Anna. Good, I like that opinion of yours. :)
We make a choice, to allow the storms and adversity to defeat us or to make us strong. Its a paradox the harder the life the stronger you become. The stronger you become the easier life will be.
People very often confuse physical strength with “being strong”.
I knew a guy once that was such a runt that I looked buff in comparison. I watched him get between a guy that was going to show his girl how much he loved her by beating the shit out of her and the girl. The would be beater screamed and threatened and cursed, little guy just stood there. The beater could bench 250, and he was the weaker man in the conversation.