When you’re at your lowest how do you pick yourself back up and keep going?
After another long term relationship has ended and i’m left wondering again what the hell went wrong.... how do I get over this? I’m struggling to see the light
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Grief takes its own time.
Although there is no right time or rule,
a general average is one month for every year of the relationship
The important thing is not to jump straight into another relationship while still grieving.
It helps to take the time to learn whatever lessons the experience offers.
It starts with being honest about one's own role in what happened.
How did you first get attracted to him?
What first attracted him to you?
What were the very first signs that something wasn't right?
What kinds of dynamics and habits of communication and behavior developed between you?
How did you fit into and trigger one another's unconscious patterns?
What new skills could you learn to make things better next time?
How will you go about learning and practicing them?
Psychology Today is a free online magazine with articles written by specialists on almost every topic relating to emotions, relationships and how our minds work.
Although there is no right time or rule,
a general average is one month for every year of the relationship
The important thing is not to jump straight into another relationship while still grieving.
It helps to take the time to learn whatever lessons the experience offers.
It starts with being honest about one's own role in what happened.
How did you first get attracted to him?
What first attracted him to you?
What were the very first signs that something wasn't right?
What kinds of dynamics and habits of communication and behavior developed between you?
How did you fit into and trigger one another's unconscious patterns?
What new skills could you learn to make things better next time?
How will you go about learning and practicing them?
Psychology Today is a free online magazine with articles written by specialists on almost every topic relating to emotions, relationships and how our minds work.