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Experience. You have to try and fail multiple times before you succeed. The totality of your attempts both failures and successes are experience. If failure produces such strong negative emotions in you that you can't bring yourself to try again then find a guru or a counselor Or a sensei. Someone who will keep pushing you to continue trying when you can't bring yourself to try anymore.