Do you expect to be treated the way you deserve?

Usually, when someone treats me poorly, I quickly realize that it's not my fault, and they have a problem that has nothing to do with me. But for some reason, before I realize that, I all too often have this thought, What did I do to make them so upset? or What is it about me that makes them see me that way, or want to treat me that way? I almost always manage to dismiss those thoughts, the moment they come, but they still come.

Is it just me, or do other people have those thoughts too, when they're treated badly?

On the flip side, when someone is good to you, do you feel better about yourself, like you must have done something right, to deserve to be treated well?

Of course, we all (hopefully) realize that the way people treat us says a lot more about them than it says about us, but still, that seems to be the default expectation, at least for me. Am I the only one?