Should I put myself first before friends?

One friend I have is currently pregnant and going through a lot of things. I can't cope emotionally and mentally since I found out I was adopted last week or so. She's mad because I didn't reply to her update message today about her being pregnant and going through illness too.

I don't feel able to deal with her at the moment. Personally, I don't want support from anyone. My problem is something I have to do by myself, and the only way I can truly focus on myself is to take a step back, evaluate my life and decide the next steps to take. I am currently in therapy (started first session today), and it isn't going to be an overnight process to get over.

Should I be there for her, or should I put myself first?

NaturalBeautyQueen · 41-45, F

Focus on yourself. It sounds like you couldn’t be a support to her even if you wanted to. And that’s okay. You may not be able to be there for her now, but maybe after the baby comes, you can be. Just explain it to her. Let her know that you’ve got stuff going on, and you need time to figure it all out. If she’s a good friend, she’ll understand.