Should I put myself first before friends?

One friend I have is currently pregnant and going through a lot of things. I can't cope emotionally and mentally since I found out I was adopted last week or so. She's mad because I didn't reply to her update message today about her being pregnant and going through illness too.

I don't feel able to deal with her at the moment. Personally, I don't want support from anyone. My problem is something I have to do by myself, and the only way I can truly focus on myself is to take a step back, evaluate my life and decide the next steps to take. I am currently in therapy (started first session today), and it isn't going to be an overnight process to get over.

Should I be there for her, or should I put myself first?

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TrulyDiscover82 · 41-45, F

Focus on yourself, your mental health and the huge life changing news you've just had landed on ur lap. If she's a true friend she'l understand.
It's horrible when your going through something bad the exact same time your friends are going through a challenging time. As you def will feel torn, but I've been in this situation before when I was going through depression the same time my best friend really needed me. An she totally understood. Send her da odd text every other day saying ur not being cold or anything but your going through alot too and jus to bare with you au lil till ur able to get ur head together.

WishfulCreations · 26-30, F

@TrulyDiscover82 yeah, i've sent her a message clearing things up and just explaining why i don't feel able to be there for her right now. I feel guilty for not being able to, and for not "falling at her feet", as I'm going to put it and comfort her

TrulyDiscover82 · 41-45, F

@WishfulCreations don't feel guilty, it is what it is an as you say as long as you let her know you'd be there if you could of shel understand I wish u luck wiv it🤝