What is love, and how can we learn to love one another more perfectly?
Humans are imperfect, therefore human love is imperfect.
Human love is all too often tainted, by arrogance, envy, resentments, thoughtlessness, hidden agendas, and sometimes just plain selfishness. Is love still real, with all those things getting in the way? How do we clear all those things away, and what exactly will we find when, and if, we do? What is love, at its essence?
I just remembered this quote, from Leo Buscaglia:
How do we keep our arms open? How do we keep our selfishness, and our insecurities, from taking over and causing us to grasp those we love too tightly? And what about when it’s time to let someone go?
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[quote]How do we keep our arms open? How do we keep our selfishness, and our insecurities, from taking over and causing us to grasp those we love too tightly? And what about when it’s time to let someone go?[/quote]
Once we think deep and intensely, we can realise that none of our body part was made for ourself, but for another ...
We can never hug ourselves, but made to hug another...
We can never kiss ourselves, but made to kiss another ..
We hug and kiss a baby, because that's how we were made to kiss ourselves when love overwhelms us ... and we do it since we wish to be kissed or hugged at that moment... and we take the liberty to do so, since its just a baby and its parent's don't mind .. but what if the parent condemns the act or reprimands or retracts the baby ?
Aren't we living life the wrong way ? much against the wishes of the nature .. which created us for each other .. I mean what can be done on our own ? our eyes can see the whole of another, but not just even a little of ourselves (for mirror was man made.) .. which is when I observed that the worst invention by man.. was the mirror ..
@in10RjFox That's very interesting. It's true, we can see others better than we can see ourselves, both literally and figuratively. And we can also give others affection much more easily. I think you're right, we were made this way for a reason. I imagine that those who are unable to love others probably can't really love themselves either.
And unfortunately, mirrors only reveal our physical (outward) appearance. We may see, by looking at our own facial expressions, a little something about what's going on inside, but all too often that is hidden, not only from others but also from ourselves.
@TeresaRudolph71 you resonate well.. we all have the ability to think and understand and learn for ourselves. I found that the education system, deprives us of this and instead stuffs us with unwanted stuffs and makes us live artificially. Imagine this realisation happening to us during early stages of our life. Would we have deprived others the love and deprived ourselves in turn ?
@in10RjFox Probably, yes. I think that when people brainwash others, they are probably brainwashing themselves too. I've had some good teachers, who were willing to entertain challenging questions. But some didn't. Some would humiliate and silence any students who challenged them. And yes, I think that when we deprive others of love, we are depriving ourselves as well.
