Can someone really love a person they have detestable and disdainful thoughts about?

Love is sometimes a set of scales, where our devotion towards another is balanced against our better judgement. I could imagine cases where someone genuinely loves someone, or at least the idea of someone, that is on the dark side of their core values.

Yes

hi Aidolovemostofyourthoughts
Of course! Love is close to hate at times in some people who are very emotional. Such Love is of course impossible but no less real or magical for all that. Exhausting of course.
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when it got to that level with my exhusband I could not love him anymore...but I did not hate him either. I believe the opposite of love is not hate...it is indifference.

I doubt, but no one knows because love is a splended thing and strange too.

Depends upon how long those thoughts last. We all say most impolite and hurtful things when we are angry.

Parents come to mind.

Hooman Feelings can never be constant!

Yes, I do

Not me...i cant.

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they can't!

I can't. However, my wife's mother has narcissistic personality disorder and is basically, again in just my opinion, one of the very worst human beings to have ever walked the face of this planet! My wife knows all of this of course and hates the ways her mother treats her and our kids but... she is still her mother. So I think, in her case, the answer to your question is actually 'yes'.

I can love someone and not like them

From my experience, no.

But maybe those thoughts are manufactured in your brain. Maybe that person isn’t as bad but your brain is screwing with you.

I think it depends how often those thoughts are coming about.