How do you cope when you feel like you're barely surviving emotionally?

Hi, presently I'm at a state where I'm just hanging on for dear life by trying to not succumb to my level of sadness and pain. I've family members who are going through a grieving period myself included, and lately we had another tragedy. I have quite a few things going on in my life, one being a recent thing with someone who indirectly posted my business on facebook. It reached to the point where I deleted my Facebook account and even whatsapp 2 days ago because of this. But the subject is coping and not succumbing to negative thoughts brought on by pain, how do you cope?

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Indulge · 36-40, F

Each of us have different coping mechanisms, what might be right to others doesn't mean its right for you. There are circumstances in life we have no control over, and cliche as it may sound only time is your saving grace when it comes to grieving, you must find it with in your self when the time is right that you can let go of the sadness and move on. The negative thoughts from a tragedy will come to a point and pass, the thing is your still have a life worth moving forward with, thats what the people we loose would want. It doesn't mean you will forget them they will stay with you for the rest of your life. the saying what doesn't break you will only make you stronger is very true. With me I cope with hard situations or loss of someone, by giving my time and focus on others that may need my help, like I volunteer at homeless shelters kitchens, I serve food and talk with people. I go to parks and give out coffees and biscuits to people sleeping in parks, or I go to the community garden group and help them attend to their plots of gardens, or even volunteer at animal shelters. Things like this make me grounded and I feel a sense of worth that I can give my time to people or animals in more need of me. And to give my attention to someone that appreciates a simple conversation is all that make me feel positive and help me in heal. what ever it is that will help you, look for it.best of luck.

Ladyofemotions · 31-35, F

@Indulge Hi, this is very good. Just reading it made me feel a little better. A month ago I tried starting a vacation bible school with kids from church and in the community, and it helped. So when given the time maybe I can try more methods like that. but thank you so much!

Indulge · 36-40, F

@Ladyofemotions I think if this path has given you a positive purpose then go with it, the experience can only enrich you and those you have touched by giving your humanity to a worthy cause. I think your a strong person, even to write out what your thoughts and feelings are in this form of forum, and get a perspective of others point of view on your situation..you will get through this patch in you life....and your welcome I am glad some of what I wrote can resonate with you.

Tatsumi · 31-35, M

Call myself a bitch and continue on, finding something to occupy my time and keep me focused.

And, scientifically proven Facebook is shitty.

Ladyofemotions · 31-35, F

@Tatsumi okay, guess I could call myself that and try. Yeah, facebook is like a big blotch in my life

Tatsumi · 31-35, M

@Ladyofemotions It works for me, because I have an innate disgust for weakness and imperfection. If you don't, it probably won't work.

Studies show that the vast majority of people get depressed after being on Facebook. It really is just a pain.

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I want to stop existing, but I remembered that I used to love life too much.
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Rail myself a phat line of the Pink Lady.

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