Are we really that bad?

I go through a crisis every morning, waking up, believing I'm not good enough. I live with my mother and my 5 younger siblings. 4 boys and 1 girl. my mother is an absolute warrior..I love her to bits with all the hell she's been through, bad relationships...loss of her husband, my amazing dad. but the crux of what i'm addressing is....are we men so bad? hear me out for a second.

As I guy myself, being raised by a single mother...watching this warrior of a woman raise me and the rest of the kids, I've pulled as much weight as I could trying to help her and now we're all old enough to take care of ourselves, so we spend our times and effort helping her and showing her how we've progressed and she always told me, I could be a man among men....but as I look the world...I am constantly surrounded by the cries of men hating women and even my friends are shouting out these kinds of things and even when I go home...It's everywhere...my online friends...in gaming chat forums...even discord to an extent, there's always something about why we're so shit...and it's been pushing me through a suicidal complex....Yes, I want to kill myself, It's causing me anxiety to face myself as a man because it's like...let's say I do good in the world...will that matter? The loudest voices are being heard and it's the fact that men....we are so shit in the eyes of many, MANY women and it does hurt me because what if my younger sister starts thinking like that? if I do kill myself? how will my mother take it? How will my sister handle it if she finds out this was the reason why? I'm almost a breaking point...I don't want all this negativity in this world...I'm so tired of it...I get all the movements and despite all the amazing claims...it breeds animosity towards one side, no one fights for everyone....and that is sad....

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Cutiepi23

You seem a very caring thoughtful person...suicide would be tragic you are so young. I get the feeling you are older in the mind than your years dictate and seem to be carrying this heavy burden you need to shake off. Think of this maybe your mother could not have got through her life without you she might have felt down at times but carried on for her children. Forget all that stuff about men hating woman there's so much stuff vice versa...I know it's sad but do what your mum says and be a man find some purpose in your life and happiness/fun. You don't need to be a hero for all to see. Loving those around you and yourself can change your mood. like everyone else you don't have the power to control whats out there. If your sister is anything like your mum she will do ok. Try to calm down a bit and not over think deal with things for now day by day and try to find some humour in life I find humour helps me.

Levibokuli · 26-30, M

@Cutiepi23 I really do, want to truly see everyone happy and deep down, I'm all in for it. I'm willing to go above and beyond...my mother has always been my idol...I mean to struggle as she has? never complain..and triumph with all 6 kids? and to try her best to instil the love for everyone...regardless of background and circumstance or entitlements...and I feel sad that...it's all going down the drain because, emotionally and mentally, me anxiety of facing a world like this? has gotten to the point where...my mind echoes "It would be one less man in the world" I adore women, as I put my mother on such a pedestal, a true warrior and I wish...many could take that strength...Heck, I wish I COULD. I really do...but I can't, I feel like I'm slipping

Cutiepi23

@Levibokuli hey men aren't bad (well there are exceptions) My dad is my hero also and haven't met anyone personally to match him. I think your mum seems amazing and she doesn't deserve to have all the hard work and love she gave you destroyed. I bet shes hoping you have a happy life she wouldn't want you to be unhappy because of what you feel for her.

Try to start in small ways to avoid some of your darker thoughts and keep away from people talking negative about woman all the time.

Maybe you should see a counsellor to try get your thoughts back into perspective.
Our minds can take our thoughts and run with them.... over thinking building them bigger and bigger till we cant deal with it . That's the point we need help to cope. So perhaps talk to someone you really trust even your mum or counsellor.
Great to here your at uni when you qualify you will be getting a job and making a life for yourself.

SW-User

No, you seem the opposite of bad.
Unfortunately, some women think that men are somehow inferior to women and thus are bad and some men play the role, because it gets them certain perks like not having to take responsibility for their own actions.
We need more stand-up guys like you, and they do exist, so don't exit early.

Levibokuli · 26-30, M

@SW-User Thanks, I guess I just needed a piece of mind, I've been struggling with this for weeks and wasn't sure if I could mentally handle it any longer

SW-User

@Levibokuli You seem to have a lot on your plate, I hope you can go out and just have some fun, at your age it is needed, just to get away from the responsibilities for a little while.

coary987 · M

I am proud of you young man and your mum she must be a strong lady.
And you must de strong to.
Not all guys are the same so never class them as they are just look at yourself buddy.
Your brothers must be like you to mum should be so proud of you all so never let her down ever.

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Levibokuli · 26-30, M

@nouserforme I understand your view but it's just kinda hard to truly see that, when I have a mother as strong as she is, who has never complained and yet, I'm surrounded by all this, i'm struggling

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Miram · 31-35, F

I don't think all men are bad. Just some of them and most of them are not bad all the time. Same for women.

You can't control the clashes that seem to surround you. I think you should take a break from the negativity of people and focus on you.

Levibokuli · 26-30, M

@Miram Believe me, I've tried and it's the reason why I'm at this point...I've tried to focus on myself and it's sad because I'm only 21, I know that's still young but I'm going back to university to finish my degree but...it's everywhere and it's so hard to escape it.

Miram · 31-35, F

@Levibokuli you don't need to escape it. Just don't give up on shifting all your focus on your own priorities. If someone hates women or men, it is their own issue.

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