Have you ever had a place you wanna go to, but then you don't really know who to ask to go with you? It's... Idk. Is this really part of adulting?

Is this normal?
Or is this a me thing?
Sometimes, I wonder.
I could probably ask people... but I don't for reasons. I also can't think of someone I'd feel really happy to go with. I mean, there are a few and we'd probably have fun, but...I just think that if they wanna spend time with me, then they'd be asking too. And I don't want the pressure of having to pay for other's expenses. It's kinda... it doesn't always feel good that you have to pay for the people you hang out with. As for those others that could pay for themselves, there's this hesitation that makes me not ask. Like, maybe they have people they'd rather spend time with. I don't know.
That, and other reasons, depending on the person concerned.
Maybe it's just me overthinking things.

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Thevy29 · 41-45, M

I've never wanted to go anywhere before.
But this year I wanted to do the Cairns to Sydney Road trip with my Dad. But he kept putting it off and putting it off. Then I didn't hear from him in a month until he sent me a text saying how he was enjoying the holiday.
That's right he went without me! And claims he forgot I wanted to go.
Now he wants to meet up on the weekend to show me photos of his trip. I told him to f@#k off.

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@Thevy29 Ahh. Why not go on a trip to somewhere yourself then?
I had this experience too when my friends went to another country and Disneyland without me. We were supposed to go together but they couldn't wait for me. I was still at the uni so was finishing thesis. After that, I guess the friendship didn't feel the same. Because they did that. I didn't tell them off or something, because really, I think they know it wasn't nice yet did it anyway. I couldn't lie to myself.

We're still in touch now. We still wish each other well. But some things just don't stay the same after they hurt you without a care.

Thevy29 · 41-45, M

@Casheyane I would like to try the Heysen Trail. Go end to end before I get to old. But I'm not sure if my back could handle sleeping on the ground anymore. It's 1,200 kms/ 745 miles long. It would take a lot more planning to do it plus you kind of have to start at the end of Spring beginning of winter.

Or go to Tasmania on a bus tour. 🤷‍♂️

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@Thevy29 If it's something you really want to do, I'd say start planning now. It's up to you. Just that, I have this belief that you should be able to achieve anything you're stubborn enough to try and do anyway.

But of course, do consider safety and health. If your top 1 choice isn't possible even after that, maybe go for the second one. A compromise. It wouldn't be settling since it's still in your bucket list.

I wish you get to have that relaxing and meaningful travel with nice people.