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Nightmare days#2 , how do I make it stop ✋

I just woke from again from a nightmare, I wanted to scream in shock but I tried to calm myself . In the dream I can see myself standing by door and it unlocks , he has the key and comes in. I can see he isn’t aggressive but somehow he becomes aggressive and I run to my door and he runs after me , I’m somehow on the floor screaming and a neighbor comes out and stabs him . I’m inside my apartment and the neighbor comes in reassuring everything is okay but somehow I see my exs body on the floor in my apt and I don’t pay attention to it and he gets up and runs towards me pushes aside the neighbor where they fall and don’t wake up now I run in the back and I grab my son somehow I manage to get out but he grabs my mom who comes out of nowhere which I’m lost about and he’s choking her out while I run out to get the police , we come in I can see him still choking her and I tell I never felt anger in my life from this dream in the dream , my mom face is between his legs and we won’t give up somehow I get in front of the officer and he gets shot , I woke with horror in my face and this was so vivid I just feel anger and a headache . It makes me wonder if my deceased mother ever really saw me getting beat on and I know she would trade spots with me , my mom was protective and I feel trauma all over again.. how the hell is this healing but I’m being traumatized in my dreams
Look up Jung's theories on dreaming and lucid dreaming.
One can teach oneself lucid dreaming by keeping a dream diary beside the bed and writing the dream down as soon as one wakes.
Important dreams (those which are trying to help you deal with an issue and grow) will repeat.
As you become familiar with a particular dream and recognise it you will slightly wake but still be in the dream. At this point you can consciously direct what happens. It may take over on its own course, but gradually each night you'll be able to control more of the dream so that eventually you get a happy outcome. The amazing thing about this is that it translates into improved life skills.

An example for me was that many years ago I had a recurring nightmare of a rapist and murderer stalking me through the back streets of the inner city on my way to art school.
At the time, I was in an abusive relationship with a control freak who was starting to become violent. I was unconscious of just how intense my fear of him was.
As I began to lucid dream, the dream changed. In the first versions, I became faster and better at getting away.
In the last version, I found a route where he could neither find me nor anticipate me.
When I dreamed this last version, upon waking I realised I had to get him out of my house, change the locks, change my phone number and get an apprehended violence order.
The next time he bashed me I went to the local police. They took photos of the blood and bruises and prosecuted him. The judge awarded an AVO in my favour.
I changed my locks and phone, packed up all his things and drove them to his weekend rental.
He sent roses and kept leaving handwritten messages under my door.
I spoke with my solicitor who sent him a warning that this was a breach of the order and one more violation would land him in prison. The words and flowers ceased.
Later, I discovered he had stolen one of my fractal sculpture designs and commissioned it to be mass-produced in embroidery in Indonesia. My solicitor sent him a letter of warning of breach of copyright, and sent a similar letter to the factory. Fortunately that fixed that and was the end of my experience with him.

Out of it - the dream and the experience - I learned to recognise a control freak, avoid relationship with one, and become much better at asserting boundaries.
Matt85 · 36-40, M
After you've unpacked the dream and worked out what this person wants, you should pray before bed.
moongoddessx · 26-30, F
@Matt85 good idea I will definitely pray rn I’m so tired lol
Tarxarin · 26-30, M
That's brutal.

I'm sorry you go through that.

Sleeping can be very hard.
moongoddessx · 26-30, F
@Tarxarin especially when you wake up forcefully, I’m a light sleeper so I can sense my body trying to wake up from the nightmare and it’s the most scariest shit because my son sleeps next to me and I just seen his face. My son looks just like him shit is scary stay safe tho
Tarxarin · 26-30, M
@moongoddessx
I always get a drink of water and take some deep breaths. Speaking of which I think I'm gonna try to sleep.

Hope you feel better.
moongoddessx · 26-30, F
@Tarxarin thank u will do
SledgeHammer · 46-50, M
Stop eating spicey foods before bed time...

🤷‍♂️j
moongoddessx · 26-30, F
@SledgeHammer I ate cereallll :/

 
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