Being ghosted

Sadly, words on a screen can be very powerful. But it’s important to remember that the longer someone stays anonymous, the less you can trust them. They are basically living out a fantasy of their own without the ability to follow thru with their words. They are likely not who they present themselves to be. Best way to avoid is to confirm who they are within a month of chat. This means moving to personal text msgs. And video chat is a must. If they avoid both of these option, they are not who they claim to be. Keep in mind, excuses are the equivalent of lies.

Its not stupid to feel this way, Ma'am.
I feel it often.
Its one thing not to get answers on my first messages due to the warning on my profile, I may understand that.
But its worse to convince people to chat with me though, explaining to them my warning, chatting with them for a while, and suddenly they stop answering without a reason, which is visible for me. As if I suddenly have gotten online leprosy or something. 😞

How can people be so cruel and read how I beg for a simple answer up to a dozen times, sometimes over years, instead just answering: "Go away, I don't want to chat with you anymore, because [reason]". Or just block me, that's okay too. Is that so difficult?

I love how people feel the need to be rude and insulting to someone who just needed to vent because they were having a bad day!
If you can't be nice you have no place commenting here!

It is hurtful, even online. You’re not stupid at all, you’re human. That’s actually one of the reasons I shy away from PMs which I didn’t back in the day. Not up to dealing with the connection that can come of it and the disappointment that oftentimes follows. I’d rather keep it light and keep it moving out here.

I have experienced this so many times.
You get close to knowing the person then they disappear! The account closes or they just don’t log in anymore.
Maybe it’s me and I get to attached to people on here. Maybe I shouldn’t think of people as friends on here?

It is difficult

I know exactly how you feel😥

Anything hurts initially and after a while we mature and master the art. I have lost count of the numerous bonding and ghosting or fading online. Just like hardware and software, in the past it was hard marriages and now it's all soft.

So be confident that a better person is coming your way and that destiny gave you the experience to handle the person with care.

Not cool to just disappear. Friendships can run their course and you can sense when things aren't as they used to be but disappearing with no contact whatsoever overnight isn't nice. But who knows, maybe the person has some mental issues, paranoias or something like that. You just never really know who you are talking to online.

Ghosting is a cruel and cowardly thing to do.

I have developed some strong feelings for someone here and in the back of my mind I'm telling myself they probably have several others they talk to just like that as well so I'm not that special after all, my point is that I haven't been ghosted but I'm sure it hurts just as bad. And no, you're not stupid for what you're feeling 🙂

I've had my fair share of this since EP.

There are 4 that we ended up drifting apart.

They all played there special part in my journey.

Theres one in particular.. i was very young.. i let my jealousy take over and i ruined something beautiful.

One of my few regrets in life.

The worst ones are the ones that happen when you are sleeping.

You wake up and they're just gone. You have no idea why.

It's roughest when it's the friends that I am closest to... though I am slowly working on accepting that they will be back.

I tell ppl im gone before i just dip or ghost

Sometimes it just so happens that the individual get his or her account blocked. Maybe is something hey did on another post or someone got upset by them and they report them. The said individual dont get time to let others know.....
I am just says its a possibility.

I've been ghosted by plenty of women, even women I wasn't dating and was friends with. I gave up a long time ago because I'm tired of being constantly disappointed.

Unfortunately there are people who are here that get their thrills of stringing people along, telling them what they want to hear just to disappear for good.

Sorry you were out through this. It can be complicated to maintain a profile here sometimes. It's possible their real life required them to make a quick exit.

No it’s not stupid, perfectly normal human feelings

i ghosted my last fwb… and i still feel bad about it.. but he was falling in love w me and his wife was starting to notice it..

They know that because they're human.

I'm sorry you had to experience that. No matter what anyone says, it stings, and depending upon the depth of the frienship, it can really hurt.

Short of death, there is no excuse for ghosting someone who befriends you.

I'm not sure if I'm ghosting or ghosted with people I want in my life that never initiate anything. So I don't want them in my life bad enough to feel like I'm harassing them. They don't want me in their life enough to start a conversation

-hugs- thank you for sharing.

Ghosting is disrespectful.

I understand doing it to someone who has been rude, but to just drift out of a friendship is pretty rude.

Or maybe its just cowardice?

I try never to dwell on it . Sometimes we dont know the other side of the story. They may be having a shit time, or somethings changed.

Ir maybe they just didnt have the commitment for a friendship 🤷‍♀️

Been there one too many times over the years. Not easy to find the right one to connect online and it does hurt when they leave. Hope it gets better!

Unfortunately that's the norm online ..it's best to not get too close to people online

Since it's the internet its kinda expected
Plus unless you do a video chat you have no idea who your talking to anyway

I'm emotionally unavailable online and offline. I don't have this issue.

you have lot of great kinky groups here. hard believe anyone would drop you

Some people need a personality transfusion!

Who ghosted u

expect nothing. never be disappointed.

I can’t even count the amount of times I’ve been ghosted by people