Being ghosted

Even online it hurts. You create that friendship, you let someone in to your life. You talk you bond things are good then all of a sudden they just disappear.
I would rather be told sorry I'm not feeling this anymore than for someone just to dip out.
Am I stupid for feeling this way i don't know maybe. But I'm human and it still stings.

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Mysti · 51-55, F

Sadly, words on a screen can be very powerful. But it’s important to remember that the longer someone stays anonymous, the less you can trust them. They are basically living out a fantasy of their own without the ability to follow thru with their words. They are likely not who they present themselves to be. Best way to avoid is to confirm who they are within a month of chat. This means moving to personal text msgs. And video chat is a must. If they avoid both of these option, they are not who they claim to be. Keep in mind, excuses are the equivalent of lies.

ColorMeRoz · 31-35, F

@Mysti wise words.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@Mysti I disagree that they are always not who they claim to be. If I'd avoid personal msgs and a video call it simply means that I don't trust them enough to let them close to me or that I am not interested in a closer relationship. It wouldn't mean that I lied about who I was up to that point.

ColorMeRoz · 31-35, F

@CrazyMusicLover this is even more true. It takes me awhile before I'm ready to move a relationship off of an anonymous site to a more intimate conversation. And that's talking just a friendship even. I won't take a friendship off here until I can trust them or I think I can