thoughts on this???

what does it mean when hes invested so much on his ex but woulndt do a simple thing with you? or not do the same things like going on trips and adventure? like from the song de javu by olivia and think its better? is it better if hes giving you the same effort that just being dull with you??

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hartfire

1. He's learned that a woman is not an investment.
If he's smart, he now prefers each pays for themself on a date. This ensures that his date is a woman who takes responsibility for herself and doesn't mooch off men.

2. He may prefer not to do the same things as he did with his ex because it brings up memories of how he was used and how it ended.

3. If you find him dull then you're with the wrong person.

ProfessorPlum77 · 70-79, MVIP

@hartfire Insightful!

hartfire

@ProfessorPlum77 Thank you! :)

Sadmum09 · 26-30, F

@hartfire this is deep. but not an excuse. id rather be with someone who showers me with love and attention. not somone whos badly damaged.

hartfire

@Sadmum09 Sure! :)
But love can exist where there is no wealth of any kind.
It shows in being interested in who you are,
caring about your well being,
accepting and allowing you to be who you are,
emotional openness and intimacy.

And you reciprocate equally in kind.

A person who is badly damaged isn't ready for relationship until they've healed.
But merely being bruised and cautious due to a past relationship is not "badly damaged".
Real damage comes from childhood.

LadyGrace ·

@Sadmum09 then it's up to you if that's what you want