Where do you find Value?

Often in life, we’re told we should do this or that, be or enjoy certain things. A lot of times that doesn’t fit with who we are.

We are handed a set of values as we grow up in a given society, sometimes these values conflict with our experience or the way we think.

Outside of what society messages us, where do you find your value?

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

I struggle finding my true essence, self, or worth. But one thing I do enjoy is easing someones life even a bit. I find value in kindness. Holding a door, listening, or offering help...little things that mean a lot.

ZulXeroth · 31-35, M

@Coralmist I’m big on kindness. Sometimes a little goes a long ways, much like appreciation.

You said you struggle somewhat regarding the question of identity and worth…is that a topic you explore frequently? It’s a tough topic sometimes to make progress on sometimes.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@ZulXeroth Yes I have explored it... many days I feel do I have an identity? People say in order to give, you need to love yourself first. I get stuck because I question do I deserve love?, Its hard to move past the notion Im being selfish if I give to/ put myself first🙁

ZulXeroth · 31-35, M

@Coralmist if you’d like to talk about it some, feel free to PM. I really struggled with self love for many years over having a history of suffering abuse, which can be a really sensitive topic.

Just know that you DO deserve kindness and love, and it’s ok to accept it when it’s offered.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@ZulXeroth Thank you Zul🦋