How can I move past this fear?

I may need to live alone soon. I have always lived with someone. I enjoy my own solitude but the fear Ive had for a while, is intruders. Someone seeing a woman living alone and going in at night to harm, rob, or worse. I dont know if it stems from growing up in the city or maybe all the Forensic Files Ive seen/ Datelines. I cant afford an alarm system. I know people have said get a dog, but wont be able to afford one most likely. Any ideas how to squash this fear? 😞

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Carissimi · F

I don’t think it’s an irrational fear. When I moved here, I was stalked by two men. I was already going through a lot, and this made me paranoid for several weeks, always checking the windows to see if they were lurking around. I was really scared. Take as many safety precautions as you can ... carry pepper spray or get trained to carry. We have to live our lives, but unfortunately the nutcases have increased since then.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Carissimi Im sorry you went through that.🥺 I guess I could look at it statistic wise..the area Im living near now is not the inner city, and theres rarely home invasions .

Carissimi · F

My area is low crime too. I did run into one of them a couple of years later. I found out he was a mental patient. I don’t know about the other one. Don’t know if he recognized me, but I left that building fast. @Coralmist

Carissimi · F

I should mention that I seem to attract nutcases my whole life. @Coralmist

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Carissimi a member just told me about magnetic winndow alarms, had never seen them. Seems more affordable , and it would provide peace of mind. Maybe you can look into it!!