Online person might be dead… how would we find it out?

I kinda want to know methods to verify that a person is alive and well, dead (or as sick as it may seem a fake account faking it)

Obits and mortality databases are useful

…assuming you have a rough location, gender and age-range…

It might vary based on location?

I’m unsure of how effective it is. Advice welcome?

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akindheart · 61-69, F

do you know their name? that is a start. there is also the social security death database. i have lost quite a few online friends. very sad.

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@akindheart No names; also not my friends.

State would be Texas; south-south Texas. The The Rio Grande Valley specifically. They might have been young or teenagers? Ages like 15-21 in age maybe? I know month and even a date though? Monday 9th Feb 2009 -- it might be a bit either side of that or not that exact day,,, its the day I was messaged on though... useful?

I don't know if teenagers at school would be in the SSDI

Thanks for any insights!

HootyTheNightOwl · 41-45

Good luck... I've been trying to establish the same thing for months now.

I've resorted to telling myself that "no news is good news" for now. I'm honestly not sure that I could handle actually finding the confirmation that I've been seeking. I'm broken as it is.

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@HootyTheNightOwl hi I might have a method that might help you? Depending on how much info you know? Like their location etc

Send a DM

TexasOutlawTrey · M

Look them up

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@TexasOutlawTrey more difficult if there’s a lot of unknowns like name and exact age for example

ArtieKat · M

Nice idea, @GoldenOldie - but no chance of it working

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@ArtieKat what would be the pitfalls?

ArtieKat · M

@GoldenOldie Most people are on sites like this anonymously

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@ArtieKat hmm I see. Is there a way to prove no deaths are attributed to a location? E.g fake suicide; assuming a location is known?

YoMomma ·

Why? Sometimes catfish make up bs stories of dying or cancer for extra attention or sympathy or even scamming people

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@YoMomma I had a multiple fakes potentially make up this kind of "lie" to hurt and gaslight me... sadly it worked :(

It was a longgg time ago and I was a lot younger myself. But the "fear" stuck...

Actually this happened in '09 on MySpace... catfishing wasn't a word then. But I kinda wonder if the lack of a coresponding death would show it was a lie? I kinda worry the "fakes" were telling the "truth"

^^ part of me feels that would be unlikely -- but not impossible 😥

YoMomma ·

@GoldenOldie who knows.. sorry for your grief either way

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@YoMomma Thanks. I don't suppose you'd know of any search functions i might use?

Or.. do you recall MySpace? I'm wondering if faking suicides or attempted suicide was common? 😥

legalboxers · M

master death list
https://www.ssab.gov/research/social-security-and-the-death-master-file/

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legalboxers · M

@GoldenOldie not sure. I only know thats a list for dead people..

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@legalboxers i see. but not every dead person is included 🥺

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@legalboxers Thanks - it was useful

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