The neighbour I'd gladly help move out and away forever
I don't know my neighbours very well and I'm a bit unsure of how many people and animals live there and what relationship they all have. I have consistently seen 2 men, 1 woman and 1 dog go in and out of the apartment. It's not clear to me if they are a couple + a roommate or 3 roommates. I haven't seen the woman or the dog in a long time, so maybe they're not there anymore. I have sometimes seen random people, who didn't seem like friends or family, go in. This gave me the impression that one of them was a teacher and these random people were going in for a lesson.
I have only interacted with the 2 men on a few occasions when I was due to receive a package when I wasn't home and it was left with them, or the other way around. I would describe one of them as "normal" (polite, friendly) and the other as "a bit weird" (doesn't make eye contact, doesn't say hello when we've crossed at the entrance of the building). One of them drives me insane sometimes and, for some reason, I suspect it is the otherwise "normal" one.
It has happened several times. It usually happens several days in a row, then we can go on months in perfect peace, then we're back at it again. I don't know what to do about it and when it happens, it drives me truly insane.
The problem is as simple as a phone conversation. One of the neighbours has phone conversations at times that vary between midnight and 5AM. He speaks in a room that shares a wall with my bedroom. And, from the volume of his voice, one would say he doesn't seem to fully grasp the capacities of the technology that enable the phone conversation to happen.
I am not exaggerating. I am used to sleeping with ear plugs and I can hear him through them. Last night I woke up at freaking 5AM and I could hear him. I tried to go back to sleep but he kept talking. I thought he must be done soon and then I would sleep. But he kept talking. I got more and more stressed and anxious, and after an hour or so it was clear to me that I was done with sleep for the night: even if he finally shut up, I was so agitated that I knew I would not be able to relax enough to fall asleep again.
So I did what I have done in the past, which helps me let go of some frustration but has no real effect on solving the problem: I started screaming from my bed. I alternated short screams with comments about the situation at the highest volume I could produce. Things like "IT'S 6 AM!! PEOPLE ARE SLEEPING!!", "LET'S ALL START SCREAMING BECAUSE WE DON'T CARE ABOUT ANYBODY ELSE", "I WILL CALL THE POLICE!!", etc. At 5 AM and sleep deprived, I become a bit insane and cannot think properly.
I know the most reasonable course of action would be to go talk to this person, at a reasonable hour, and politely ask him to be mindful of others if he must have conversations in the middle of the night. But at the same time, and even though I'm convinced he doesn't do it on purpose, it's hard for me to believe that he doesn't realise he's practically screaming at a time when most people are trying to sleep, and that he must be bothering others. So this makes me think that a reasonable approach would not work, because this behaviour is by all accounts unreasonable.
I went one step further today and, in my altered state of mind, I found my iPad, looked for an audio of a hoover and left it against the wall, at full volume, for an hour (6:45 AM to 7:45 AM). I am unsure if he sleeps in the same room where he has his screaming conversations and I doubt that this little "revenge" will solve anything. If it happens again, which I very much think it will, I might end up calling the police (to say something along the lines of "I can hear my neighbour speaking very loudly, something must be going on and I'm scared") or ringing his doorbell in pyjamas and crazy hair, which would probably not be a good idea.
I don't know what to do. But something should be done or I will lose my mind, and I'm quite fond of it.
I have only interacted with the 2 men on a few occasions when I was due to receive a package when I wasn't home and it was left with them, or the other way around. I would describe one of them as "normal" (polite, friendly) and the other as "a bit weird" (doesn't make eye contact, doesn't say hello when we've crossed at the entrance of the building). One of them drives me insane sometimes and, for some reason, I suspect it is the otherwise "normal" one.
It has happened several times. It usually happens several days in a row, then we can go on months in perfect peace, then we're back at it again. I don't know what to do about it and when it happens, it drives me truly insane.
The problem is as simple as a phone conversation. One of the neighbours has phone conversations at times that vary between midnight and 5AM. He speaks in a room that shares a wall with my bedroom. And, from the volume of his voice, one would say he doesn't seem to fully grasp the capacities of the technology that enable the phone conversation to happen.
I am not exaggerating. I am used to sleeping with ear plugs and I can hear him through them. Last night I woke up at freaking 5AM and I could hear him. I tried to go back to sleep but he kept talking. I thought he must be done soon and then I would sleep. But he kept talking. I got more and more stressed and anxious, and after an hour or so it was clear to me that I was done with sleep for the night: even if he finally shut up, I was so agitated that I knew I would not be able to relax enough to fall asleep again.
So I did what I have done in the past, which helps me let go of some frustration but has no real effect on solving the problem: I started screaming from my bed. I alternated short screams with comments about the situation at the highest volume I could produce. Things like "IT'S 6 AM!! PEOPLE ARE SLEEPING!!", "LET'S ALL START SCREAMING BECAUSE WE DON'T CARE ABOUT ANYBODY ELSE", "I WILL CALL THE POLICE!!", etc. At 5 AM and sleep deprived, I become a bit insane and cannot think properly.
I know the most reasonable course of action would be to go talk to this person, at a reasonable hour, and politely ask him to be mindful of others if he must have conversations in the middle of the night. But at the same time, and even though I'm convinced he doesn't do it on purpose, it's hard for me to believe that he doesn't realise he's practically screaming at a time when most people are trying to sleep, and that he must be bothering others. So this makes me think that a reasonable approach would not work, because this behaviour is by all accounts unreasonable.
I went one step further today and, in my altered state of mind, I found my iPad, looked for an audio of a hoover and left it against the wall, at full volume, for an hour (6:45 AM to 7:45 AM). I am unsure if he sleeps in the same room where he has his screaming conversations and I doubt that this little "revenge" will solve anything. If it happens again, which I very much think it will, I might end up calling the police (to say something along the lines of "I can hear my neighbour speaking very loudly, something must be going on and I'm scared") or ringing his doorbell in pyjamas and crazy hair, which would probably not be a good idea.
I don't know what to do. But something should be done or I will lose my mind, and I'm quite fond of it.
