can you even have a heart-to-heart with a compulsive liar
i've kind of been wanting to get something off my chest. when my mom died my cousin offered over and over again to be there for me 24/7. and i kinda brushed it off for a while cause that's just something people say when someone is going through a loss. but he just kept offering, and a few months prior he gave me this big speech about how he doesn't understand subtext and needs everything to be said directly or he won't understand. so i was like, well, with that in mind he won't say something if he doesn't mean it right? if he wants me to be direct bc he doesn't understand subtext then he would also be direct, so his direct offers must be sincere right?
so i asked him to spend the night with me bc i was just really scared at night for a period after my mom died. not just wanting a distraction from the unbearable grief but also i was just scared af of the dark and being alone. but the first time i asked him to come over he got a weirdly timed text and had to leave after a couple hours or something. i was like that seemed fake lol but whatever
but then he starts offering to be around again 24/7 whenever i need. i was like dang maybe there was actually an emergency idk.
so i ask him to come over again and we watched a movie. then right as the movie ends he sends a text then immeditelyyyyy gets a very convenient phonecall about an emergency. my cousin monotone af like "oh what's wrong? slow down whats happening? omg okay okay"
he's like there's an emergency. i'll call an uber i have to go. and i was like bruh you live 5 minutes away, i'll just drive you. why would you want to wait for an uber
and i didn't bother asking him meet up again but like. wtf. i told another close friend about it a couple days later and he's liiike that's kind of messed up to fake a crisis twice while you're actually dealing with one. till that point i was just kind of off-put by the situation. like it was weird and it made me feel bad but it's not even that surprising to me my cousin would do that. but at that moment i was like you're right that is kind of messed up actually!
like just don't make offers over and over again if you don't mean them, come on now. or if you wanted to go home just say that!!! why are you faking emergency phonecalls like i'm a scary date? that feels shıtty!!
and i'm not exactly angry or anything but every time we text, any time i think of him, talk about him, whatever... i think of him faking emergency calls to leave. and i just want to tell him that it kind of sucked so i can get over it
but lowkey i suspect he's a compulsive liar. so maybe it's not even worth talking about. because it's been years. because it's not like i can prove he faked emergencies to skedaddle. but like.. i can feel in my heart that's exactly what happened.
i don't even want an apology. i just want him to know i know what he did and it was a really hurtful. it would have been better to just be honest and say you want to be home. i think it'll give me some closure.
but uhhhh if tries to lie out of it.... liiiiiike... yeah i worry i won't want to be friends anymore lol. he's no contact with our family besides me. i see the family for special events because i feel like i have to, but besides my dad, he's all the family i've got.
maybe it's not even worth bringing up tbh. i just want to stop thinking of it every time he shoots me a text and i don't know how
so i asked him to spend the night with me bc i was just really scared at night for a period after my mom died. not just wanting a distraction from the unbearable grief but also i was just scared af of the dark and being alone. but the first time i asked him to come over he got a weirdly timed text and had to leave after a couple hours or something. i was like that seemed fake lol but whatever
but then he starts offering to be around again 24/7 whenever i need. i was like dang maybe there was actually an emergency idk.
so i ask him to come over again and we watched a movie. then right as the movie ends he sends a text then immeditelyyyyy gets a very convenient phonecall about an emergency. my cousin monotone af like "oh what's wrong? slow down whats happening? omg okay okay"
he's like there's an emergency. i'll call an uber i have to go. and i was like bruh you live 5 minutes away, i'll just drive you. why would you want to wait for an uber
and i didn't bother asking him meet up again but like. wtf. i told another close friend about it a couple days later and he's liiike that's kind of messed up to fake a crisis twice while you're actually dealing with one. till that point i was just kind of off-put by the situation. like it was weird and it made me feel bad but it's not even that surprising to me my cousin would do that. but at that moment i was like you're right that is kind of messed up actually!
like just don't make offers over and over again if you don't mean them, come on now. or if you wanted to go home just say that!!! why are you faking emergency phonecalls like i'm a scary date? that feels shıtty!!
and i'm not exactly angry or anything but every time we text, any time i think of him, talk about him, whatever... i think of him faking emergency calls to leave. and i just want to tell him that it kind of sucked so i can get over it
but lowkey i suspect he's a compulsive liar. so maybe it's not even worth talking about. because it's been years. because it's not like i can prove he faked emergencies to skedaddle. but like.. i can feel in my heart that's exactly what happened.
i don't even want an apology. i just want him to know i know what he did and it was a really hurtful. it would have been better to just be honest and say you want to be home. i think it'll give me some closure.
but uhhhh if tries to lie out of it.... liiiiiike... yeah i worry i won't want to be friends anymore lol. he's no contact with our family besides me. i see the family for special events because i feel like i have to, but besides my dad, he's all the family i've got.
maybe it's not even worth bringing up tbh. i just want to stop thinking of it every time he shoots me a text and i don't know how
