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The Burden of Death

I miss talking to my husband and today was real bad.

Perhaps, it is the reason why I cannot feel good about celebrating the death of someone else's husband no matter what he believed or taught.

My husband didn't die in a brutal way, although, it was still terrible and too quick and I didn't really have a lot of time to prepare myself for that.

Another woman, much younger than myself, grieves tonight with her young children.
She wasn't ready either and she has the additional burden of having to deal with the violence of the death and with the taunts of those people who think it is better that her husband is dead.

My God! we're not supposed to shoot people over these things we are supposed to try to reason with them, discuss it with them, and then walk away if we can't agree and fight for what we do believe in without violence.

No, I can't see anything good nor can I see myself being happy that somebody's husband was brutally killed.
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HootyTheNightOwl · 41-45
Grief affects different people in different ways.

Maybe she needs to celebrate what her husband achieved in his life as a means of getting through???

Maybe she believes that he's in "paradise" now - whatever form that takes for her...

It's okay to sit this one out if your own grief is still too raw and close to the surface. Taking care of yourself and whatever you need is what's important right now. You can deal with commemorating this guy in a way that feels authentic to you another day.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@HootyTheNightOwl
I'm not commemorating anyone.
It is common human decency ,to me, to not be okay with someone being brutally murdered.
HootyTheNightOwl · 41-45
@Justmeraeagain Ah... I think that I misread what you said somewhere along the way.

For some reason, I thought that you were saying that his wife and family had chosen to celebrate his life rather than mourning his death (which some people do). I see now that your problem lies with his opponents and how they are treating his wife and children.