Grief is personal and you, a stranger on the internet, may have a similar experience and I may grieve for you....

...but I am not now entitled to tell you how to grieve, and neither are you entitled to tell me how...we are not now intimately connected that's bull

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BamPow · 51-55, M

Knowing that someone is going through something is completely different than knowing what they’re actually going through. Grief is an individual experience in terms of pretty much everything: time, intensity, waves, timing, etc. Sometimes grief is insurmountable and no amount of time is going to heal you completely.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@BamPow You just go about like a sleepwalker, doing the best you can.
At least that is my experience.
What disturbed me most about this latest spout off from a stranger is that he claimed we were now intimately connected. Talked to him twice on public forums.

Livingwell · 61-69, M

So true. I was overwhelmed. About a month and a half later I just broke down. I think of mom every day.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@Livingwell I lost my mom and dad quite a few years ago it was a hard loss

HootyTheNightOwl

Exactly... grief is as unique as your DNA or your fingerprint. What works for one person might not work for the next.

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HootyTheNightOwl

@Justmeraeagain Yeah... that's way too fast and too soon for me, too. I'd be creating more distance and blocking them myself.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@HootyTheNightOwl I did block him.

HootyTheNightOwl

@Justmeraeagain That's good... you don't really need to be trying to figure him out on top of grieving.

Magenta · F

Totally with you on that.
Too many large egos want to tell others how to be or feel.

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