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Was my friend right to dump me after I yelled at her for not carrying about my grief?

So my friend texted me just hi. I replying hi how are you. She said, “Stressed”. I asked what was wrong and she said she has so much in her mind and worrying about her problems and explained everything while I listened to her. I told her I was here for her. I told her about my math class I’m stressing about too but she didn’t respond to that.
I repeated myself but she still didn’t answer me. I yelled at asked if she was going to ask how it went. She said I ALWAYS do this and make everything about myself. She was stressing, going though a hard time and I just threw in my math class. I wanted to change the subject. She didn’t respond to that. Then I scolded that I’m having a harder time and my grandpa just died a month ago. She yelled at everyone has their own problems to deal with and they’re not always going to ask about my grief. She said she’s done being my friend because I only “think about myself” and have a nice life. Then stormed off.
People are insensitive.
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Storyteller4u2 · 61-69, M
Stress is not a good place to be in to have a conversation. When someone is stressed they are closed off to anything that is contrary to their suffering as they are in survival mode.

As you are both women, you process by talking. On a good day everybody listens and waits for her chance to say what she wants to say next that adds to the conversation.

On a not so good day and if listening is necessary, then only one person can have issues at a time to feel like others care and are "there for her."

As you both had a not so good day, both needed someone to help you feel like others care, both felt there was nobody caring or listening, just competing to see who was having the worse day and the fight was on. And people are therefore insensitive.

While everyone is hurting, nobody is healing. Time apart should help. Make an agreement with the time apart and reconnect when recovery is well in hand.