Why does grieving always hurt so much?

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Because when someone leaves, you're reminded of your own essence and feeling the distance between your identity self and your essential self. If you can know life is eternal and that there's never any separateness, you wouldn't grieve. But when you attach the love you have for someone with things of this time/space reality, you feel grief when those things you shared with that person are withdrawn.

Carissimi · F

You would still feel the loss, and therefore feel the grief, even if you knew there was life after death. You would still miss the person in your life on earth. @PhoenixPhail

PhoenixPhail · M

@Carissimi Yes, even knowing there's no separateness, you grieve the person the way you knew them. It's very different not having them there in form. So, there's a sense of their absence.

Eklipse · F

@PhoenixPhail I agree. I get to struggle the most when memories hit otherwise I cope not so bad. It's still painful and tiring though.