How do you become less shy?
I'm so shy I don't know the first thing about not being shy. It's persistently a problem and would like it to be less so. Any help appreciated.
36-40, F
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MarkPaul · 26-30, M
You don't ever become less shy... it's a hard-coded part of your personality. You might as well wish you had a genetically different body or special powers of an imagined superhero. The problem is when YOUR shyness holds you back from what you want to achieve. So, the best thing to do is to embrace it rather than putting your energy into trying to convert to being less shy.
The thing is that shy people (like us) can still engage in society with OUR shyness. It just takes practise. And trust me, there will be plenty of steps backward. It's like a game-challenge as you keep vying to get to the next level. You collect capabilities and functionality as you go along, but your feelings get also be crushed along the way. As, in a game though, you will be resurrected although each time, you will have to start all over.
It's a game of resilience.
The thing is that shy people (like us) can still engage in society with OUR shyness. It just takes practise. And trust me, there will be plenty of steps backward. It's like a game-challenge as you keep vying to get to the next level. You collect capabilities and functionality as you go along, but your feelings get also be crushed along the way. As, in a game though, you will be resurrected although each time, you will have to start all over.
It's a game of resilience.
