Struggling to understand the full mechanics of forgiving people: would like outside opinions.

Not actively angry anymore...Check!
I understand their childhood, their upbringing, and I understand WHY they were the way they were...Check!
If that person were alive today, I would hug them...Check.
WHILE that person was alive I bent over backwards to take awesome care of her...Check!

But I am still struggling to forget. I don't forget all the things she did, and I tell stories about what she did.

Does that mean that on some level, I don't forgive her?

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LadyGrace ·

No. Not at all. You just still have hurt feelings and scars and hurt feelings brings up the memories. Those will get better as you pray and go along. You're still healing and that's why you're still feeling the hurt. That's different than forgiving. You've already done that so you're good with that. Try to keep your mind off of that so it doesn't hurt so much. You have great hobbies and it would be good to take them up again if you have not done them in a long time. Also I have a favorite movie that you would really love that would take your mind off of things like that if you would like to watch it. It is called Jesus of Nazareth.

4meAndyou · F

@LadyGrace I have watched The Chosen series, which is also awesome!

LadyGrace ·

@4meAndyou yes but some of that in that movie is not biblically accurate so that is why I did not suggest it.

4meAndyou · F

@LadyGrace Jonathan Roumie, who plays Jesus in the Chosen, does it SO beautifully. His face, his voice...everything portrays the Jesus in which I truly believe.

LadyGrace ·

@4meAndyou Oh yes!! I love Jonathan Roumie. I also do like the chosen series but I just don't recommend it because it's not biblically sound but then it can lead others to Christ so if it accomplishes that then I'm all for it.